We Are Experiencing The Rise of the ‘Bully Moms’

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Women may be stereotyped as “catty” but the truth of the matter is, generally, we sometimes are most judgmental of one another and often, we do, in fact, prey on each other’s insecurities. We then use them to impose and dictate our standards onto other women and shame them when they don’t measure up.

I’m guilty of this for sure.


Moms do this too.

Heck, the Mommy Wars is all about Judgy Judy McJudsons, and in fact, a recent survey of millennial moms reveal that 80 percent of them have been shamed by other moms. le sigh

Getting bullied and made to feel inadequate by the popular girls and cliques was supposed to end at high school graduation, right?

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But it doesn’t.

In a new piece by Anne Roderique Jones in MarieClaire published today, Jones describes the “Bully Moms” (also the title of the article”) who are fueled by  social media and pop culture.

I love how Jones starts:

You can’t identify a mean mom by her Birkin bag or her lycra Lululemons. She comes in all sizes and socio-economic classes and lives in no specific zip code, rearing her head in the heartland, crunchy California, the Deep South, New York City. But you know a mean mom when you meet one: She criticizes your parenting style, calls you out on Facebook, or slathers you in snark. These are the mean girls, all grown up and blossomed into adult bullies with kids of their own. You’ve probably encountered a few at your local playground. Hell, maybe you are one.

The author then goes on to perfectly explain the evolution of “Keeping up With the Jones” from the perfect TV families to Reality TV wives and beyond:

I hesitate to blame pop culture for the mom-on-mom hate, but life does imitates art. Our parents’ generation grew up watching scripted sitcoms with impeccably behaved children (The Brady Bunch, Happy Days) and modeled their own actions accordingly. But as our entertainment appetites evolved, so did the way we treat each other … Girls who watched ‘The Simple Life’ as teens in the mid-aughts are now moms hooked on ‘The Real Housewives.’

In a world dominated by Pinterest and Instagram, is being a mother (which women have been doing since the beginning of time, mind you) starting to become an endless race towards perfection, lest you get called out for being anything less? Do we all have to keep up with the clever birth announcements, the gender reveal parties, the elaborate maternity shoots, the professional post-birth shots in the hospital ward? I recently came across a post in my feed of a beautiful blonde woman wearing an off-the-shoulder shirt with #MomLife scrolled in gold letters across the front. It’s all a perfectly curated existence, this motherhood thing.

 Maybe moms today—with the pressure to be selfie-level beautiful, to cook Instagram-worthy (organic) meals, to plan lavish playdates, and to maintain a career so they can, in many cases, not just contribute to their household but be the breadwinner or even the sole source of income—are just too damn exhausted.

Fascinating and sadly accurate!

Head on over to MarieClaire.com and digest the rest. 

 

Getting Fit After Baby: Fabletics New April Gear is $15 a Set (Limited Time)

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Whether you’re newly preggers or just got cleared to start working out again after having a baby, chances are you’re going to need some gym or exercise clothing.

These days, the most fashionable and stylish athletic gear for women can be very very expensive. A sports bar at Lululemon can start at $56 and a pair of crop leggings are $118. That can be costly for those who are watching their pennies or are on maternity leave without pay.


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As I’ve shared before, our Bellyitch Bumpwatch alum Kate Hudson has a line called Fabletics with comparable quality clothing for a fraction of the cost of the top competitor brands. We are an affiliate to the membership athletic clothing brand and just learned that it has released its April new additions.

We are excited to share that there are introductory outfits for new members starting at $15! Wow! You really cannot beat that.

Below are a sample of looks you could get at lululemon and you would spend between $59 to $300 for one outfit:

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Compare to a sample of this month’s new collection (below) of outfits at Fabletics that are originally $79 per set that you can get now for a limited time for $15! Yes. That is awesome.

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Go get this awesome discount while it’s still hot and start your fitness journey! START TODAY!

 

What Hot Moms Named J.Lo Wear on Weekends

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It’s weekend! Time for kids activities, practices and games, trips to the mall, hikes and journeys to visit friends and family or join in celebration. It’s highly likely that you’ll be spending your downtime in sweats, yoga pants, comfy jeans, t-shirts and tennis shoes.

But will you be looking like Jennifer Lopez? At 47-years young, she has a sick body, and a long list of boy toys (though the current one is retired major league baseball player Alex Rodriguez we hear).


We spotted the hot mama in a cropped white top showing off her insanely ripped and toned abs, a pair of Lululemon yoga pants and Neon Green Nike trainers, oh and of course, naturally, carrying a $ 7,000 white Hermes Birkin bag, the ultimate luxury tote for a woman of means, wealth and influence.

If only…right? Well, actually, if you can, why not!? Look! SHOP!

The 4 Things I Plan to Do to Get Back into Shape

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It’s time of the  year when many people vow to get in shape. I too am eager to unpack some of the pounds I gained during the Holiday eating season. Also, I just returned from an overseas trip where I visited my husband’s native Trinidad and Tobago. There was plenty of yummy desserts, breads and other delicious meals that got demolished. So…yeah. Ten to 20 pounds later.

Here are the four things I will be using to get back into shape:

  1. My workout playlist I created a few years ago on the Soundcloud App which has been reposted by quite a few people. I even created one for Soca and Afro Beats when I want to switch it up. You can check them out below:

2. I plan to hit the gym regularly and run at least three times a day outdoors or on the treadmill in the gym or my home gym in my basement.

  1. I also intend to cut back on carbs so I’m going to stockup on Thin Slim Foods. I did a review of theses yummy pasta, bread, bagels and desserts samples the company sells and was convinced. I am a genuine convert.

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4. Because I’m budgeting this year for several planned excursions and investments, so Lululemon is out of the budget when it comes to updating my work out gear. Fortunately, I can get that same caliber and quality of clothing from Fabletics at a fraction of the cost. Fill out the quiz and you get a lovely selection of clothing to fit your exercise of choice, fit level, place of workout, clothing size and budget.

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Once I join, I am offered one two piece outfit for $10.00 and when I order at least $39.95 in clothing, I get free shipping! You cannot beat that. I love leggings of all colors, patterns and shapes. I live in work out gear given that I work from home and have to be flexible with my choice of clothing. Running errands, heading out to pick up or drop off the kids, picking up mail and other routine tasks can be done comfortably in any pair of leggings. Here are the ones the Fabletics team picked out for me. Click below to take the quiz and get your own customized offerings:
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If you’d like to get in on this deal and join as well, take the quiz HERE! 

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