If you are having trouble putting the romance back into your relationship, you are not alone. During those initial sleepless nights, maybe you told yourself everything would go back to normal as soon as the baby started sleeping through the night. The truth is, once you have children, all your time becomes dedicated to them.
Whether it’s the explicit time of midnight feeding, infant swim classes, chauffeuring them to soccer practice, or doctor appointments it can be hard to find time for yourself, let alone time as a couple.
While a baby is a wonderful addition to a family, it’s important to reconnect with your partner after the arrival. Your relationship will be stronger, your children will be able to see what a healthy relationship looks like and will have the benefits of having both parents present in their lives.
With the increased expense of diapers, baby food, child care, baby clothing, etc, it can sometimes be challenging to find the money to treat yourself to some time without the baby. Here are some ideas to restart the romance.
Hopefully, you’ll find few that fit your time and money budgets.
“No kids” rule
Agree that when you set aside the time for yourselves, it is for you. While it can be hard not to talk about your children, especially a new baby, it is important to remember that you had other things to discuss before their arrival. While kids can move to the top of the list in terms of importance in your life, you still have other interests.
This is great on a weekend when both of you are home. One of you take the baby the hour or so before bedtime, the other prepares a favorite meal. While one parent is bathing, changing, and feeding the baby, the other cooks the meal and sets the table. Use the good china and put some candles or flowers on the table. Make it a special time, so that when the baby goes down for the night the two of you can enjoy a nice meal that won’t break the bank and doesn’t require the extra expense of a babysitter. Leave the dishes for tomorrow, and take whatever time you have before you fall asleep to for yourselves.