An article written by HuffPost Parents blogger Allison Tate, “The Mom stays in the Picture” last October 6 has taken off virally. In the piece, Tate discusses how photos she has taken of her children do not include herself in them. The story resonates with many moms who are uncomfortable with the way they look now, carrying baby weight and not having the best looking hair or clothes, and how that influences their decision to be included in photos of their children.
“I avoid photographic evidence of my existence these days,” Allison Tate wrote in that HuffPost Parents post. “We’re sporting mama bodies and we’re not as young as we used to be…We don’t always have time to blow dry our hair, apply make-up, perhaps even bathe (ducking). The kids are so much cuter than we are; better to just take their pictures, we think.”
HuffPost Parents took note of the overwhelming response to the piece and in a recent piece wrote:
We need to stop that right now, she said. We must get ourselves into the picture because “our sons need to see how young and beautiful and human their mamas were. Our daughters need to see us vulnerable and open and just being ourselves — women, mamas, people living lives. Avoiding the camera because we don’t like to see our own pictures? How can that be okay?”It isn’t. And based on how often this post has been shared and tweeted and commented upon, you know that it isn’t, but you needed a reminder.
HuffPo Parents has created a photo album, a collection of photos, “Mama In The Picture” and made up of images contributed by readers. It is to be “a celebration of women who may be carrying baby weight, and wrinkles, and spit-up stains, but who are THERE.” And as Allison wrote: “I want to be in the picture, to give them that visual memory of me. I want them to see how much I am here, how my body looks wrapped around them in a hug, how loved they are.”
To contribute your photo WITH you IN THE PHOTO, submit it HERE!