Here I am defending Kim Kardashian-West critics again. It has literally become a pastime for me
This time, the KKW Beauty purveyor is being shamed for not inviting her surrogate to her lavish Baby Celebration last week.
During an appearance on the TV talk show The Real, the reality TV star explained her decision to Loni Love.
“I introduced her to my family earlier that day, and I just thought … I don’t know, it was a weird decision to have to make,” Kardashian admitted. “Of course I would have wanted her to be there, and be a part of it, but I hadn’t really gone that far in explaining [the surrogacy] to my kids yet. So I have to figure that out first before they really see, and then if we’re celebrating, you know, her … I just wanted to celebrate the baby,” she continued. “I think I have to explain it to my kids first, and figure out how I’m going to explain it to them.” So, that’s that: it’s all about the kids.”
I get it.
A lot of people in the general public are quite clueless on pregnancy. Surrogacy is very complicated. It is even banned in several countries and some states have very strict rules.
Besides that, similar to adoption, there is a lot of emotional turmoil and angst associated with it. While the surrogate and the parents can become close and have a bond, there is always that fear that the surrogate could develop too much of a bond to the baby she is carrying and resent the parents.
That is what happens in adoption and why birth moms often are not given a chance to hold right after delivery the baby they, pre-birth, have decided to give up for adoption.
When you add young children in the mix, including those who have memories of a previous pregnancy and seeing mommy with a big tummy like her daughter North did with son Saint, I get it.