Actress Tatyana Ali has decided to keep the sex of her soon-to-be born baby a surprise. That’s different, isn’t it?

“We have chosen to keep the sex of our child a surprise. The only person who knows is our doctor,” the Harvard graduate told PEOPLE.

The Fresh Prince of Bel Air alum said her family and friends are not on board with their plans to wait to find out the gender of her first child with fiance Dr. Vaughn Rasberry who she met online.

“Friends and family have so much to say about our choice,” she adds,” but we wouldn’t have it any other way. It is so much fun to have people guessing and betting when they are around us.”

Not knowing also means not imposing their own dreams or societal standards on their baby, Ali mused.

“If we knew the sex, we might decide things about our baby’s future that we have no right to decide — that our little boy will love athletics like his father, or our little girl should be sent to dance school like I was when I was young,” she said. “We may unwittingly predetermine a course for our child that is ridiculous or just plain wrong.”

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