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Before You Think You’re Out There Alone in Motherhood, Read THIS!

Being a parent is one of those things that you can spend your entire life waiting for and still not be ready for when the moment finally arrives. The truth is that there really is no way to be fully prepared for the highs and lows of parenting. You’re going to go through more joy and laughter, as well as more frustration and exhaustion than you’ve ever felt in your life. It’s lucky then that there is so much advice out there for new parents to get their hands on. Many parents who might otherwise have felt utterly lost are able to both feel less alone and get some useful information thanks to the sheer volume of blogs and websites online these days. However, there’s no way that these kinds of places can give you all of the information you need and a lot of the time some incredibly important stuff ends up getting neglected. With that in mind, here are just a few incredibly important truths about parenting that you probably won’t hear anyone telling you any time soon.

You’re going to need a break from time to time

When your little bundle of joy finally arrives, you’re going to take one look at them and think that you’ll never want to leave their side for as long as you live. Well, get ready to kiss that feeling goodbye a lot sooner than you think. The truth is that every parent needs a break from their kids from time to time. Babies and even older kids are a lot to deal with and trying to do that on top of a lack of sleep, and a chaotic routine can often be enough to drive anyone round the bend. There’s nothing wrong with one of you needing to just head out for the day or taking a long nap while the other looks after the kids. You can’t be in parent mode 24/7.

People aren’t judging you as much as you think

Any parent knows, all too well, the feeling of when their baby starts crying or acting up in a public place. Whether it’s a store, a restaurant, or on a bus, it can often feel as though every single person around you is furiously judging you. However, that’s not the case nearly as much as you might think. After all, most people understand that babies cry, that’s just what babies do. The vast majority of people will either be ignoring you entirely or will have nothing but sympathy for you. The truth is that you’re probably a lot more worried about the noise that your baby is making than anyone else around you.

You’re going to hate them a little bit sometimes

Your baby is going to be the light of your life. They’ll bring meaning to your existence and will provide you with more joy than you knew you were capable of. That being said, they’re also going to make you want to bury your head in the sand for hours at a time. There will be moments here and there where you will really hate your baby. That might sound incredibly harsh, but the truth is that babies are difficult. They’re loud, they’re unreasonable, and they can often cry for hours for seemingly no reason at all. It’s okay to have those feelings of pent-up frustration, just don’t let them get to you. The best thing to do is just to walk out of the room for a while, count to ten, cool down, and come back in. Everyone hates their kids a little bit sometimes, and that’s okay because in an instant you’ll be right back to loving them more than anything in the world.

It’s okay to ask for help

Far too many people end up feeling as though asking for help with their kids is somehow a sign of weakness. They assume that if they can’t deal with their kids completely on their own, then they’re doing something wrong. The truth is that reaching out to the people in your life for help is one of the bravest, most responsible things that you can possibly do. Whether it’s friends, your parents, or even a babysitter, needing a bit of help here and there is totally understandable. After all, babies really do not come with a manual.

No one really knows what they’re doing

Do you ever feel as though you have no idea what you’re doing when it comes to your baby? Welcome to the club! Being a parent is often a lot more guesswork than many people let on. Sure, there are things you can research, but just about everyone has those moments where they just don’t know what to do. Whether it’s knowing what kinds of foods to start a baby off with, when to stop swaddling, or whether or not a dummy is a good idea, most parents are winging it just as much as you. The key is to give yourself break and avoid falling into the trap of assuming that you have to get everything right all of the time no matter what happens. If you ever feel like you’re completely lost, just remember that there  are thousands of parents out there just like you.

The most important thing to remember about being a parent is that every child is different. Things that work perfectly for some parents could well end up being completely useless for you, and vice versa. The same goes for the parents themselves, of course. It’s important to figure out the kind of parent that you want to be and, as long as you’re doing right by your little ones, you don’t really have to worry about what other people have to say. Looking around for advice is all well and good, but the last thing you want to do is to have to spend all of your time in a panic because you don’t feel as though you’re doing things exactly right.

Reality Check: 5 Things They Lied to You about Motherhood


Few experiences in life are as rewarding and as exciting as becoming a new mom for the first time. It’s also an incredibly mysterious time, as every bit of advice, both solicited and unsolicited, seems to contradict the next. Much of parenting is based upon your own personal style and philosophies, but there are also a few widespread parenting myths that are so accepted amongst new and old moms alike that they’re rarely questioned. Before you start worrying about your performance as a parent or concerning yourself with things that simply aren’t happening, it’s best to apprise yourself of old wives’ tales that have little merit.

1. Your “Motherly Instincts” Will Kick Right In – Many an expectant mother has been reassured by the people around her that the bewilderment she feels will somehow magically disappear the moment a newborn is placed in her arms. The truth of the matter is that you will probably leave the hospital only marginally more comfortable than you were before you went in, and that you will almost certainly never feel like you have all the answers. Very few moms are “instinctively” able to decipher every whimper or cry their babies make, so don’t beat yourself up if these promises don’t come true. Just like most things in life, true expertise comes with experience, not as a result of sudden knowledge imparted by postpartum hormonal changes.

2. You’ll Just Know How to Breastfeed – Yes, breastfeeding is the most natural and healthy way to feed your new baby. That being said, it’s also one of those things that people swear will come effortlessly to a new mother despite the fact that it’s simply not true. There’s a reason why lactation consultants, dedicated support groups and blogs exist solely to cater to breastfeeding assistance: it’s not always so easy! Your baby may have trouble latching, you may need coaching on proper positioning and it may still not work out in your favor. You haven’t failed if your plans to breastfeed don’t come to fruition, and it’s not a sign that your maternal instincts are somehow lacking.

3. Your Baby Will be the Most Beautiful Thing You’ve Ever Seen – When you look at your baby for the first time, you may be completely besotted. That doesn’t mean, however, that she’ll necessarily be beautiful. Birth is difficult business, and it often shows when a baby’s brand new. She may be discolored, she may have a misshapen head from a rough delivery and she may even have acne.

4. You’ll Have Your Old Body Back in No Time – Creating a person takes a toll on your body, and it will show after the birth. Everything from breastfeeding to a scheduled cesarean section is said to be the solution to losing baby weight and getting back into shape quickly, but the truth is that every human body is different. Your best friend might snap back from pregnancy in no time, and you may still be struggling to get back to your old body when your little one starts elementary school. In all likelihood, you’ll never look exactly the way you did before you became pregnant, and it’s not necessarily a reflection on your level of discipline or the amount of effort you’ve put in to losing weight.

5. It’s Just the “Baby Blues” – Postpartum depression is a very real and potentially debilitating condition, and even though it’s openly discussed by celebrity moms and parenting experts, many new moms still believe that what they’re feeling is a simple case of the “baby blues.” Knowing the difference between hormonally-charged mood shifts and bona fide postpartum depression isn’t always easy, which is why it’s important to discuss any concerns you’re feeling with a medical professional