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How to Talk To Your Child About Aftermath of George Floyd’s Death

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As a parent (future, impending, new or veteran), we are challenged to cope with these unsettling times, and to help children who are experiencing and witnessing the mayhem related to the pandemic, and now social unrest.

It’s not just us.

The world is challenged by COVID-19 and more recently, the growing protests following the killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis, Minnesota; Breonna Taylor in Louisville, Kentucky and Ahmaud Arbery in Brunswick, Georgia . Now more than ever, we all need to become committed to personal introspection and to gather our thoughts so we can later help our kids make sense of it all.

Parents no longer have the luxury to just ignore it because the world, companies, influencers, brands, schools, political figures and seemingly everyone is saying something…finally!

A lot of parents, especially non-black parents, may struggle how to broach to topic because they themselves do not know how to process it,  know what to say, know how to say it and may experience anxiety, fear and uncertainty on how their message will be received.

I write to share my thoughts in hopes they may serve as a guide.

Ultimately, on the protests, fires and violence, you can try to shelter children but understand that if they are online, or have eyes or ears, they will hear and see what’s going on and may ask questions.

Using simple, age-appropriate wordsm explain that people are upset with a bad incident and are protesting to let the people in charge know they are not happy because this bad incident has happened before and they do not want it to happen again.

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Race may be a complicated topic but if you feel your child can understand, you can go ahead and let them know that while everyone should be treated equally without regards to what they look like on the outside and what skin they have, that is not always the case. And people are upset and demanding that things change so everyone can feel safe, especially our black friends, neighbors and family.

You can let them know that it is a complicated and complex problem that adults, and in particular those in charge of certain institutions, have to deal with and hopefully, we will make progress.

They should not be burdened that they bear any personal role, though you can tell them that they should always treat everyone with kindness but let them know that the problem is bigger than just one-on-one individual actions of kindness. Bigger systems need to work in order to make the type of changes people are looking for.

If you feel you need to address the fires, violence and looting, you can let them know that there are bad people who are not protestors who have sadly gone to where the protestors are and that they causing more ruckus and mayhem.

It is upsetting to you and the protestors because they think their voice may get drowned out by these other guys.

The government is stepping in to try to weed out the bad apples mixed in with peaceful protestors, but some people think it may be too much force and getting even more upset.

Again, let them know that these are adult matters and we adults are in charge of working all of this out.

You can give them a sense of understanding that what is happening is not anything they can control but that you have hope things will work out eventually and in the end, if not soon, in the future.

For older teens, if you are comfortable discussing, you can let them know that the uprisings in protests around the United States and solidarity marches and demonstrations around the world call our attention to the cause: the systematic and institutional abuse of power and authority that has resulted in repeated instances of police-involved killings of unarmed black men, women and children in America, many times when the victims are innocent of any wrongdoing.

There is a lot of scholarship and articles summarizing the problem you can find online. Here is one that I recommend:

They should know that a lot of people are taking to the streets also because they are tired of being stuck at home because of Stay-home orders and calls for social distancing.

They have decided to join those people who are frustrated with being restrained from critizing authories and once again calling for reform to ensure all citizens are treated with human dignity and respect during police encounters.

It’s a mixed bag of a lot of different people with different agendas and looks like a mess.

Nonetheless, let them know the focus must remain on the cause of the uprising and not the tragedy and property losses that are the effect.

Ideally, all lives should matter when it comes to the exercise of caution by police to limit civilian death outcomes. Sadly, history has shown that is not the case as one racial class of people is persistently killed at an alarming disporptionate rate compared to their population in America and with impunity.

There are several initiatives and ways to get involved, demand action of elected officials, or donate to the cause of those doing the hard work to improve this situation for the betterment of all, and in particular black citizens in this nation.

I hope this helps.

Stay healthy and Safe out there!

How to Throw A Drive By Party

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The pandemic has completely changed the way we enjoy traditional celebrations because of the need to social distance and because party supplies are harder to come by these days.

Families are now hosting zoom birthday parties and drive by wedding receptions. People are leaving caks on doorsteps, packags are wiped down and kids are enjoying online magic shows.

And as this is graduation season, a bunch of Class of 2020 graduates have found themselves having to celebrate their commencement in virtual ceremonies and drive by parades. I just attended one that my town threw for all the seniors today.

If you have an event coming up that will  be curtailed by Stay Home Orders and Social Distancing laws that have not been lifted yet, here is a step by step guide on how to throw a  drive by party:

Step1: SPREAD THE WORD

What’s a parade without people watching from the sidewalk?! Ahead of the event, mail free printable invitations to friends, family and neighbors, or even leave DIY invitations along with a little party favor on their porches. Want to go the tech savvy route? Create a Facebook event or post the parade details on a neighborhood app or website.

Step 2: PLAN YOUR DECORATIONS

Before you start decorating your car, choose a theme. What’s the occasion? What colors would you like to use? What are the guest of honor’s favorite things and favorite colors? Spending a little time pre-planning your car decorations will go a long way toward having a successful car parade celebration.

SHOP IT

Birthdays come around just once a year, so make the day special! Use a car decorating kit to decorate your vehicle, or create your own unique look especially for the birthday person! Ask parade guests to hold balloons or even wear party hats as you drive by in your decorated car with the special birthday person. Custom photo cutouts, standups and yard signs are especially fun to see along the parade route! The guest of honor can also wear a special hat or fun shades and accessories as they wave to well-wishers.

From Pre-K and Kindergarten to high school and beyond, kids have worked hard to achieve this graduation milestone and should be celebrated. Honor them in a big way with a car parade! If you’re driving the graduate around, deck your car with all kinds of grad goodies including graduation year decorations, banners, signs and balloons. (A car decorating kit makes it super easy!)

People watching the parade can participate by holding signs (or displaying them in the yard), hanging banners, waving custom photo cutouts of the grad or cheering with pom-poms or clapper hands.

SHOP IT

 

Step 3: PLAN SPECTATOR FUN

Just because it’s a socially distanced celebration doesn’t mean it can’t be fun! Make the most of the parade with party favors and fun extras like noisemakers and confetti poppersparty hatspinwheels and more.

The parade host can provide them ahead of time with a door drop or the parade guests can provide their own as a special surprise for the parade honoree.

Now get out there and celebrate!

Excerpted from OrientalTrading

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7 Ways Parents Can Reduce Stress During Covid Pandemic

COVID has taken an emotional toll on many of us, and parents have really felt the brunt of it. From having to work from home, help the kids with schoolwork and entertain them, and not really getting much of a break or social time of their own, the stress can quickly add up.

How can mom and dad reduce their stress, fatigue, and overwhelm and get back to feeling good again?

Dr. Alok Trivedi is a health and human behavior expert, founder of the Aligned Performance Institute and author of the book ‘Chasing Success.’

He offers this advice:

1 Take a break: Just like when you worked in an office you would take breaks throughout the day, you must do the same when you are constantly with your kids and family. That’s not being mean or selfish. That’s taking care of your mental health and well-being. If you don’t take breaks you can’t be at your best the times when you are with your family.

2 Get out of the house: One of the biggest challenges for parents and everyone these days is being stuck inside. You may not want to go to the mall or supermarket, but you can still get out of the house. Go for rides in the car. Go for walks around the neighborhood. Sit outback and let the kids play in the yard. Go fishing. Whatever you do, just make sure each day includes time outdoors and out of the house.

3 Date time/adult time: Even though times are tough and your kids are always around, it’s important for parents to still get their adult time in. Make time to spend alone with your spouse. Give each other a massage. Hold hands. Have more sex. Physical contact is a great stress reliever. Have friends over and sit six feet apart on the driveway. Hold a virtual happy hour. Facetime your friends just to talk. You love your kids, but spending 24/7 with them is going to stress you out.

4 Focus on self-care: Everyone must put a focus on self-care, especially in times of craziness. Make sure and take at least 20 to 30 minutes each day to do something that you truly enjoy and relieve your stress, whether that’s taking a warm bath, spending time in nature, reading, listening to music, or whatever.

5 Delegate: Many parents are feeling overwhelmed these days. Having to work from home, help with homeschooling, entertaining their kids and more, there is a lot of responsibility on mom and dad’s plate. Get your kids involved and break up the daily and weekly tasks that must be completed. This not only teaches children responsibility; it will remove some of the stress that the parents are feeling.

6 Make it fun: One of the best ways to reduce stress is to add fun to your daily tasks. Maybe it’s rocking out to Aerosmith while you clean the house. Maybe it’s playing peek-a-boo with your baby. Take a random break from schoolwork for a quick game of hide and seek or bake a cake with the kids. Whatever is fun for you, do more of it.

7 Plan the future: A lot of parents are caught in the hustle and bustle of the here and now. The reality is that COVID is not going to last forever, and eventually, things will go back to some type of normal. Plan a trip. Plan a big party for when you can have people back in the house again. Look for restaurants your want to try when it is safe to eat out again.

Whatever you do, the idea is to get your mind thinking to a time when you can do more of the things you want to do again.

Now If Your Mom (Or Pops) Didn’t Teach You How To Clean House…

Last week, I blogged about a dad who started a YouTube channel to guide kids and young adults who are growing up without a father figure so today, I’m blogging about those of us whose mama didn’t teach us certain things about keeping house.

Just in time for Sprie I get accused of being anti-feminist. Here is some back story:

My roomate in college grew up in a military parent household. Her dad learned how to properly make a bed and crease the corners perfectly . She was great at folding laundry. Her shirts were exquisitely creased. Her socks drawers were meticulous as well. Her mom, I assumed, was all about organization and order and structure.

I envied my friend Richiey, who I had also went to high school with before we both matriculatated to the Unviersity of Maryland at College Park.

While I always have considered myself a neat and orderly person, I could not match the pristine way she was able to keep her things and phsyical space in tip top shape all the time.

She was the best roomate.

Now as for me, my mom worked as a housekeeper when I was a child  so you’d think I would have learned a thing or two about cleaning from her. Nope! After a day of cleaning hotel rooms, she had no energy left to teach me the proper way to clean house.

That is why I was so excited to receive this book called “Home Comforts: the Art and Science of Keeping House” from my law school class mate years later as a wedding present back in 1999.

It was a hardback book, not too fancy but amazingly went through everything in painstaken detail. They do not sell it any longer though you can still probably get a softcover version HERE!

I have a full review on the blog you can read HERE. I recently did a quick video review that you can watch here:

Beat Pandemic-Related Stall of Your Postpartum Weightloss Goals

The corona virus pandemic has ensured that people are staying in their homes. They do not have the option of going out or socializing. Staying at home and working from home means people are getting lazy and not exercising as much as they need to do. Along with the sedentary lifestyle, people are snacking more too.

Women who are trying to lose weight post pregnancy are finding it difficult because of the lockdown. And their cravings are also more, and if they do not control their intake, you are going to find them gaining a lot of weight.

But there is a solution to this problem. You can lose weight amidst lockdown and given below are a few tips to ensure that it happens:

Portion control

Overeating or binge eating is the main cause of weight gain along with a sedentary lifestyle. When you are at home in lockdown, you can be tempted to eat more than you usually do. This can lead to weight gain and considerable weight gain at that.

All your attempts at losing the weight you gained after child birth would have gone to waste. If you do not want this then make sure that you do not over eat.

Be disciplined.

Adhere to your meal prep. Make sure that you are eating the right portions. If you feel like snacking, eat fruits or raw vegetables in between meals, a cheat snack once in a while is fine, do not make it a habit.

This one step will ensure your fight against weight gain.

Exercise

Many of my friends who are regular at gyms are not exercising at all.

I spoke to a number of them and the reason they are not exercising seems to be lack of motivation.

I do not agree to this at all. Are we trying to lose weight to impress others? I surely am not doing it for that. My reason for losing weight is me. I am trying to impress myself. I want to look and feel good. I want to be in the best shape of my life. I want to shed the additional pounds and I will motivate myself.

My motivation is not looking at my friends and acquaintances in the gym, my motivation is me.

If you have the same drive and determination you will self-motivated to lose weight on your own without anyone’s prodding or without looking at others weight loss achievements.

There are many ways to exercise at home, you do not need any new equipment, you can use the things at your home to exercise or you can just use your own body weight.

YouTube has innumerable videos which can help a person lose weight. You just need to search for weight loss post pregnancy and you will find a number of videos that show the exercises that can be done. You just need to follow them and you will lose weight if you do it on a consistent basis.

If you do not want to do exercises, you can search for dance videos to lose weight post pregnancy and you will get a list of videos.

You can just dance your weight away by following the dance steps. Again consistency is the key.

You can also try zumba, aerobics, pilates and much more too.

If motivation is the problem, you can follow the blogs of celebrities who have reduced weight post pregnancy.

They detail the steps they took and you can also learn from them. You can also visit other blogs like Prorganiq Blog and learn about losing weight in a healthy manner, learn about the foods that help in reducing weight, learn about the many weight loss supplements that can assist you in your endeavour to lose weight.

Water

Drinking the right amount of water per day is essential for weight loss. Many of us do not intake the necessary amount of water and this means we do not lose weight even after exercising and cutting calories.

A study found that people with higher body mass index tend to be dehydrated because they consume less water.

If you weigh 200 pounds, you should divide it by half, i.e., 100 pounds, each pound would be one ounce, which means you should drink 100 ounces of water every day. The right amount of water will ensure you lose weight in a healthy way.

Sleep:

Everyone knows about the advantages of sleep. Sleeping 7-8 hours every day is essential for losing weight post pregnancy.

You may feel like sleeping more, you can do that once in a while but do not sleep less than 7 hours.

Take short power naps in the day if you are feeling tired but do not sleep because you are in lockdown and you can sleep to while the time. After strenuous exercise your body needs sleep, so give what your body wants.

Free and Fee Summer Coding Camps

My eldest kid is heading to college soon to study Cybersecurity, Secured Computing and Information technology.

My husband and I have actively enrolled the younger two in those quick free tech in-store camps hosted by Black Girls Code, Apple, Microft and Verizon Innovating Learning Lab and were looking into investing in full robust camps this year because our daughter, in particular is great at coding and the middle kid is all about digital art.

Enter COVID-16. Plans changed.

But a friend tweeted me, asking me to give her referrals to any good tech summer camps I knew of and that request gave me an excuse to see what’s the landscape looking like this year in light of global shut downs and other restrictions.

Here is what I discovered:

FREE CAMPS

Here are camps that are offered at no cost to students. These usually fill up fast so it’s a good idea to sign up early before it’s too late.

Apple Camp

Every Summer, Apple offers short free 90 minute courses for kids ages 8 to 12 so they can explore music, coding, moviemaking, or art & design.  They re located inside local Apple stores and Apple usually announces the dates early summer to late Spring.  You can sign up here to be notified if they will be having a traditional in-store one this year or will be moving to a virtual set up!

Black Girls Code

The award-winning initiative to encourage black girls to learn to code and enter the tech field is offering a series of online web courses in gaming design. My daughter has already taken one and loved it. She is signed up for the next one in May. Sign up for scholarship for its Online Summer Camp here.

Code Wizard HQ

This coding academy for children and young adults recentlyh curated a list of 46 FREE coding classes, websites and apps for parents looking for educational outlets for their children this Summer. Check out the post HERE! 

Flatiron School

This nation wide college for continuing education offers a series of online courses including free courses in Introduction to Java Script, Hacking 101, Data Science Boot Camp and more. See what is available here!

Harvard Online Tech Courses

Harvard University offers a series of self-paced online courses free that run 12-14 weeks each.  Among the offerings are Introduction to Game Development and  Mobile App Development, Programming with Javascript and Python and Introduction to Computer Science. If you want a fancy certificate you or your child can hang in an office or wall in the home, they charge about $99 for that.

The in store 90 minute camp that the Microsoft store offers has not been updated and there are only references to its 2019 Summer program. I’ll tweet at them and see if I can get a response and will update this post with what I discover.

MIT Online Entrepreneur Course

The Massachusetts Institute of Technology offers a free class 6 week course on how to become an entrepreneur not necessarily for kids but can be taken by teens. If you want to get a certification, it costs $69 and is a great thing to hang in an office or add to a resume.

FEE CLASSES

Code Wizards HW

Code Wizerds HQ has an online virtual  for third to 12th grade students. The camp meets multiple times online for 6 weeks and cost just $149 which is a steal compared to these other courses.

iD Virtual Tech Camps

Roblox, Scratch, Minecraft, video game coding or Adobe, Java, Python languages are among the courses taught in this very popular and well received national camp. Classes are one to two weeks long with live instuctors and cost around $399 each. Age groups 7-9, 10-12,  13-18 or general 7-19. It is now signing up students for virtual camps!

National Computer Camp

Founded in 1977, National Computer Camp has four locations: New York, Atlanta, Connecticut and Ohio and has moved online and offers (2D and 3D game design, web design, Android app programming, video production, software apps), as well as offering A+ hardware, software and network+ certification, plus PSAT and SAT Math preparation classes, with a lower price tag to boot.

The price is $599 per week with a $100 price drop if you sign up for one of its scholarships it is handing out. During free timee During free time campers are free to explore the NCC software (over 100 gigs), play in tournaments, continue to code, and make new friends.

Texas Robo Camp

The University of Texas has a special online edition of the Texas RoboCamp for 2020 for high school students. The cost is $750.

CAMPS IN LIMBO

These are traditional nationally-recoginized camps that operate nationwide but have not decided yet how to proceed in light of the pandemic:

Emagination Computer Camps

Since 1982, Emagination Computer Camps have offered day and overnight programs for “Kilobytes” ages 8 to 10, “Megabytes” ages 11 to 13, as well as a program for teens in the 8th grade and up. With five locations on college campuses near Atlanta, Boston, Chicago, New York and Philadelphia, the camp offers a wide range of diverse tech programs for every skill level. However, the camps may switch to online, digital only this Summer, depending on state rules and regulations. Stay tuned.

digital media academy

Digital Media Academy

Before COVID, Digital Media Academy operated camps out of top colleges and universities in the U.S. (Harvard, Stanford, Univesity of Washington, GWU, University of Texas, NYU, UC Davis, Chicago) and University of Toronto in Canada, offering day and overnight programs for children ages 6 to 18. According to DMA, kids are taught by “award-winning filmmakers and artists, master teachers and certified Apple, Adobe and AutoDesk professionals.” All of the camps are “project based meaning your son or daughter completes a real-world project under the guidance of one of our professionals.” What’s more, there are two sets of staff, one for technical instruction and another set for more traditional camp activities and the overnight program.

However, it too is taking a wait and see approach and will offer refunds to parents who have pre-paid while still offering up access to suite of digital and online labs, per its COVID-response web page. 

20 Fabulous DIY Summer Nail Color and Designs To Try Out

If you’re like a lot of us, you may be totally over the global lockdown and stay home orders that require us to self-isolate from our friends and to avoid frequented sites and to social distance.

But if you’re like me and other fashionistas, you may be struggling with the idea of not being able to get your hair and nails done and having no where to wear all the frivolous outfits you’ve been buying online lately.

Hopefully, you check out my previous posts that show you how to do your own DIY spa with stuff in the fridge and pantry, how to get professional looking nails at home and how to enjoy a nice foot soak and pedicure.

Whether I’m flexing my designs in social media or at the grocery store, I often get remarks from store clerks and friends who believe my nails were done professionally. Now that’s a sign that they look good!

Now if you’re looking for nice colors or design ideas to experiment with at home, you can check out my DIY Nails board on Pinterest which has a nice following of about 10,000 users.

I’ve curated 20 from that board which has the source for the creatives who made or sported these looks:



Pastel Ombre



Almost Neon Blue Coffin Nails

 

The Joker

Jungle Boogie

 

Orange Apeal

Pretty in Pink

Unexpected Tips

Earl Gray

Natural Beauty

Neon Lights

 

Marble Skies

Baby Pink

Unicorn Love

Cosmic Beauty

Forrest v. Beach

Pink Stiletto

 



The Cosmopolitan

Moon and Stars

 



Shark’s Fin

 



Gardenia

Memorial Day: How to Be A Grillmaster in 15 Steps

If you are grilling for Memorial Day this weekend and need some grilling tips, you’ve come to the right place. Here are 15 of our fave tips we spotted from various sources and around the web and assembled into top 15 tips

1. Gas vs. Charcoal? – The age-old debate over which grilling method is “better” involves multiple variables, from flavor to cost to convenience. While no studies prove that either is healthier, gas does burn cleaner. Charcoal grills emit more carbon monoxide, particulate matter and soot into the atmosphere, contributing to increased pollution and higher concentrations of ground-level ozone. From a taste perspective, on the other hand, many people prefer the smokier, richer taste of food cooked on a charcoal grill.

2. Get It Hot!– Preheat your grill 15 to 25 minutes before you start cooking to make sure it reaches the right temperature (and to kill any bacteria). Your grill should be 400-450°F for high, 350-400°F for medium-high, 300-350°F for medium and 250-300°F for low heat. A properly heated grill sears foods on contact, keeps the insides moist and helps prevent sticking. While searing doesn’t “seal in” the juices (contrary to popular belief ), it does create improved flavors through caramelization.

3. Brush It Off – It’s easier to remove debris when the grill is hot, so after preheating, use a long-handled wire grill brush on your grill rack to clean off charred debris from prior meals. Scrape again immediately after use.

4. Oil It Up– Even on a clean grill, lean foods may stick when placed directly on the rack. Reduce sticking by oiling your hot grill rack with a vegetable oil-soaked paper towel: hold it with tongs and rub it over the rack. (Do not use cooking spray on a hot grill.)

5. Marinate Your Meat -Marinating does more than infuse food with flavor; it also inhibits the formation of potentially carcinogenic HCAs (heterocyclic amines), which form when grilling “muscle meats” like poultry, red meat and fish. According to the American Institute for Cancer Research (AICR), marinating can reduce HCA formation by as much as 92 to 99 percent.

6. Is It Done?– The best way to know if protein is fully cooked is to check its internal temperature with an instant-read thermometer.

7. The Hand Test– To gauge the temperature of a grill without a thermometer, place your open palm about 5 inches above the grill rack; the fire is high if you have to move your hand in 2 seconds, medium if you have to move your hand in 5 seconds and low if you have to move your hand in 10 seconds.

8. Tame The Flames- Flare-ups happen when fat drips onto the heat source and catches fire. This causes carcinogenic PAHs (polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons) to form and accumulate on your food. Meat licked by flames also tastes “off” and flames may char the outside of food before the inside has thoroughly cooked. To reduce flare-ups, select lean cuts of meat, trim excess fat and remove poultry skin. And, keep a squirt bottle of water near the grill to quickly douse any unexpected flare-ups.

9. Give It A Rest – Let finished meats rest on a clean platter, tented with foil, for about 10 minutes before carving so juices can redistribute evenly.

10. Veggies Lift – Keep the lid up for Veggies so they don’t become too limp and are crisp not soggy

11. Fishy Fish – For fish, slice lemon and make a bed of them and lay the fish on top to grill.

12. Ribs Boil – Boil ribs for 10 to 15 minutes before grilling to make sure you kill all bacteria from them.

13. Get Saucy – Add the sauce during the last 15 minutes of grilling.

14. Keep it Juicy – Don’t flatten your burgers and cause all the succulent juice to run out. Instead poke them with a fork.

15. Portion control – To avoid overcooking or undercooking, grill smaller pieces of meat at a time.

YUM!!!!

9 Free Financial Apps to Download Today

A lot of people are out of work due to global stay home orders and shutdowns because of the Coronavirus pandemic.

Therefore, a lot of families are budgeting more and being more mindful of their finances.

They may be depleting their savings or surviving on government subsidies like unemployment or pandemic loans or grants. Here is where it is a good idea to download a good software or two to help you track your spending, pay bills or track deferrals, in case your mortgage, landlord or utility provider has suspended collections.

A few of these allow you to keep track of your credit score, your investment portfolio  (if you’re not afraid), track your debt reduction or your daily, weekly, and monthly expenses so you know where your money is going and what you need to reign in, if that’s a concern.

And the best thing is that a lot of these apps are FREE! (and some with in app purchases or upgrades)

Mint is an all-in-one resource that allows you to make budgets, track spending, pay bills and keep track of your investment portfolio. DOWNLOAD THIS APP

 

Clarity Money allows you to set savings goals, make budgets, check your credit score, and track your spending. DOWNLOAD THIS APP

Albert analyzes your finances, spending habits and savings goals and creates a plan based on them. DOWNLOAD THIS APP

You Need a Budget – Gives you a “job” for every dollar so you know exactly howmuch you have available for purchases. DOWNLOAD THIS APP

Wally allows you to track your daily, weekly, and monthly expenses against your overall income to see where money is coming in and going out. DOWNLOAD THIS APP

Acorns saves money automatically by rounding up purchases on linked accounts and moves the differences into savings. DOWNLOAD THIS APP.

 

Prism is a streamline bill payment system that shows all account balances, bills and payments to creditors in one platform . DOWNLOAD THIS APP.

 

Digit tracks all your loans in one place, along with your payment due dates and debt amounts. DOWNLOAD THIS APP.

Settle up keeps track of your shared expenses to show all money owed and who you should pay next. DOWNLOAD THIS APP.

There you have it! Download some of these today and start getting your life in order and in check!

Be A Tiger Mom Early On To Ease Parenting Stress Later

Back in 2017, educator and author, Dr. Cornelius Grove, sent me his book about East Asian parents back in 2017 to review, which I did, but only recently began to understand how the Tiger Mom form of parenting is actually best for training children with poor work ethic and for relieving parental anxiety and stress when a child enter Middle and High School years.

Essentially, his book “The Drive to Learn: What the East Asian Experience Tells Us about Raising Students Who Excel” talks about how Eastern Asian parents do a better job at parenting children. In short, in this book  delves into the deep cultural reasons why our children’s learning in school is consistently below others. (Read more about the author at TheDriveToLearn.info)

Now that I am deep into Western form of parenting and can now appreciate the hard lessons in the book, I am comfortable advising new parents to consider the East Asian form of parenting and to introduce the models and styles as early as possible in order to make life easier, academically, later.

This suggestion is true becuase you have no clue what kind of temperment your baby will develop over time so in case you do not get a natural hard worker or go-getter, at least you can supplement and hard wire a more care-free, relaxed, non-challant child’s brain to know to do what needs to be done to succeed academically, at least!

Here is an excerpt from my review from a few years back if you would like to revisit it:

Because America focuses on the individual and lays the burden to educate its school children squarely on shoulders of school systems and teachers may be the cause for pervasive mediocrity among its students compared to other industrialized nations.

So says social scientist and researcher Cornelius Grove which I received this Summer complimentary in exchange for an honest review.

It took me quite some time to get through it because of life’s interruptions but also because it is tremendously densely packed with information, data, anecdotes and references that I wanted to make sure I took a comprehensive approach to digesting all of its contents before writing this review. Also, I am very interested in education and the process of raising quality children. The Sociology of child-raising is a fascinating topic to me.

Admittedly, from reading the front and back cover, I expected the book to a “bashfest” of the American education system and American children interwoven through passages levying laudatory praise of East Asian schools and kids.

It was not that really. Moreso, Grove examines various aspects of learning in the two cultures in an attempt to dissect what makes them so different.

America is an individualized society while China and Japan are Communitarian. While America focuses on the build up of the individual and self, East Asian cultures strive to develop a sense of being part of a larger community. READ MORE

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