Pregnancy is a stressful time for many women. Expecting mamas are considered “community property” in that the general public feel a certain amount of affection towards them. At work, moms-to-be are trying to navigate work expectations, stay on track, make adjustments to accommodate fatigue, morning sickness and in the early stages keep the news under wraps.
The US outlaws pregnancy discrimination at work outright, but many pregnant women say there are subtle ways even the most well-intentioned coworkers can make them feel ostracized.
Business Insider published an article this week with a list of 7 things HR professionals and other experts recommend people. avoid saying to their pregnant co-worker:
Some comments, like asking the baby’s gender, might seem well intentioned but come across as invasive. Other questions can make pregnant women feel alienated and might even discourage them from returning to the same job.
Here are seven things you should never say to a pregnant coworker — plus tips on what you should say.
Wow! You’re Getting Big
Comments regarding a woman — or anyone’s — body are never allowed in the workplace, said Alison Green, the creator of the popular work advice site Ask a Manager.
“No one wants to feel her colleagues are scrutinizing her body,” Green told Business Insider.
“Being pregnant in the office is a sensitive time in terms of what you hear from your coworkers,” Taylor told Business Insider. “I think most people in this nine-month period just want to be treated like your average employee, so try not to treat them very differently.”
Tired of sending the same old cupcakes or cookies to school for the class Halloween party? This year try something different. No trick, these Halloween treats are simple enough to make that the kids can help put them together.
You Rule!- Purchase a ruler for each student. On your computer type the message “You Rule! Bats Drool!” and then copy and paste it so it will appear 5 times on a page when printed. The finished strips should be about 2 inches wide and 8 ½ inches long so keep that in mind. Print the messages on red cardstock and trim the strips apart. Using an Exacto blade on a self-healing cutting mat or cutting board, cut a slit an inch from each end of the strip that is wide enough to slide the ruler through. Continue for each ruler. Stick a bat sticker on one end or draw one with crayons.
Spider Webs- Lay out some waxed paper on the counter or table. Set up 8 pretzel sticks so they look like the spokes of a bicycle wheel. Continue setting up more “wheels” all over the waxed paper. In a microwave safe dish melt some chocolate melts according to package directions. White or dark chocolate will work for this treat.
Transfer melted chocolate into a resealable plastic bag. Make a tiny snip on one corner of the bag. Start in the center of the pretzel sticks and cover all of the ends with chocolate so they are sure to stick together when the chocolate sets up. Then continue around in a spiral pattern making a spider’s web. You can add a few Halloween sprinkles to the chocolate after you make the webs if you’d like. If you are in a rush, you can slide the waxed paper sheets onto a cookie sheet that has been flipped over and chill these in the refrigerator.
Ghost S’mores- Gather up small cellophane bags, graham crackers, mini chocolate bars, marshmallow ghost peeps and ribbon. Place two squares of graham crackers on one side of the bag.
On the other side of the bag place 2 mini chocolate bars. In front of the graham cracker squares place a ghost peep. (Just like Easter peeps, but these treats are white, shaped like a ghost and have a face) Finish the treat bag by tying it with a pretty ribbon.
Spider Pop- Cut up a black trash bag into 4 inch squares – just enough to cover the number of spiders you want to make. If you cut a 4 inch strip off of the top of the bag you will still be able to use the rest of the bag. Wrap the black plastic square over a Tootsie pop. Twist 4 black pipe cleaners over the plastic to hold it in place, then spread the pipe cleaners out to create spider legs.
Bend the legs once to form ‘knees’ and then again at the bottom to form feet. Now your spider treats are done. If you are short on pipe cleaners you can get by using just 3 pipe cleaners per spider, as most people won’t count the legs. These treats are also great to hand out for trick-or-treaters on Halloween night.
I want my Mummy- You will need full-size chocolate bars, big googly eyes and white crepe paper streamers. Glue the googly eyes toward the top of the chocolate bar.
Next, wrap the white streamer around the bar so that it looks like a mummy. End your strip on the back of the bar and tape down the end so that it doesn’t unravel.
These festive treats are a little out of the norm and you will look like a rock star for sending in something different than the same old thing. As schools are getting more and more conscious of what the kids are eating there may be times when you need a class treat that isn’t food related, in which case you can send in the rulers. So the next time you are on the list for sending in treats why not try something different?
About 60% of parents worry their children are lacking essential life skills, such as time management, public speaking and managing their finances, according to a survey conducted on 1,000 parents of children aged 13 and above.
As parents who want to do everything in our power to help our children become strong individuals who can handle anything life throws at them, this should be a wake-up call to stop doing everything for them, and make sure we’re teaching them the skills they need to become independent and confident young adults.
How to prepare a meal
Nutrition is a vital part of life. Everyone needs to eat a healthy and balanced meal every day to provide the body with sufficient energy and vital nutrients to stay healthy. Sadly, not everyone knows how to prepare a meal properly. In fact, many parents in the US opt for fast food, lacking either the time or skills to prepare home-cooked meals for their families.
Do not let your children fall into the fast-food trap. Teach them how to cook tasty meals that incorporate all the vital nutrients they need. This will help them live healthier lives, and also save them a lot of money.
How to sew
One of the biggest problems with the current generation is that when something is broken, they would rather replace it than fix it. The same applies to clothes. When a piece of clothing gets even the slightest tear, most people throw it away or banish it to the dark corners of their closets that they never visit.
This is very wasteful, and isn’t the mentality we want our kids to have when they grow up. Instead, you can teach them how to sew, showing them basic hand stitches, and teaching them how to use a machine so that they are able to repair their clothes or even make their own.
How to drive
Driving is another important life skill that parents should teach their kids during their childhood years; not just when they are old enough to drive. Many parents mistakenly think that they should start teaching their kids how to drive when preparing them for their driving test, but this is not the case.
Children start learning how to drive through observation when they are still in their car seats. They see how you behave on the road, how you treat others, and whether or not you follow traffic laws. Parents should teach their kids not only how to control a vehicle on the road, but also how to behave while driving.
For centuries, humans have survived by passing on essential life skills to the next generations.
Unfortunately, many of them are not taught in schools, and it is up to us as parents to teach your kids all the skills they need to be healthy, happy and independent adults.
Whether you’re new to the Souuth or have lived there your entire life, there really is nothing quite like witnessing a Southern storm at its angriest. Between the streaks of lightning, booms of thunder and rain that falls at a slant, there is a certain majesty when you watch a storm brew.
While these storms are fascinating to behold, they can also be damaging to your home and property. Prepare your house for storm season so that the next time one comes, you need to do nothing but enjoy it!
Batten Down the Hatches
Preparing your house to take a beating from Mother Nature is no small feat. Thanks to the heavy winds coming across the Atlantic Ocean, weather-proofing your house is essential during storm season. It doesn’t matter if the home is new construction or is a brick-and-mortar house from the 1600s, the same precautions should be taken.
Exterior buildings should be heavy-duty and made from durable materials like SteelMaster framing. This includes outbuildings like sheds, garages, workshops and greenhouses.
Storm shutters do more than add Southern charm to your windows; they serve the oh-so-practical purpose of protecting your windows from shattering in heavy winds. Make sure that your storm shutters are in good working order with reliable hinges and lock systems on them.
The South can be prone to flooding thanks to its hard grounds and torrential rain, so get sump pumps and water drainage systems in place.
Prepare the Inside
Your house is protected, now you need to focus on your family. In case the power goes out for a few days, will you and your family be okay during that time?
Pack an emergency kit and include common-sense items like a first aid kit, warm clothes, flashlights and extra batteries.
Don’t forget about entertainment for the little ones while they’re unplugged! Think about items like board games, coloring books, small toys and art supplies.
Will you be warm enough for the next few days? Be sure that you have plenty of heavy blankets and sweatshirts clean. You might be without heat for a while!
Prepare the Outside
You need to remember your yard as part of the equation when you’re preparing for a storm. Get it as ready as you can so that less damage is done during a particularly bad one.
Put lawn furniture away until next spring. As summertime ends and the rainy seasons begin it’s time to say goodbye anyway, so move everything off of the patio and into one of your sheds or garage.
Trim back any trees or worrisome branches in case of heavy winds. The last thing you want is for a branch to come flying through your living room window!
Put away anything in your yard that could potentially fly away during a storm: Umbrellas, toys, yard tools and the like.
Any Southerner can look at the color of grey that the sky is and tell you what kind of storm is brewing. Understand the risks involved with these amazingly violent storms and prepare your home and family as best you can.
It’s the start of a new school year in my home and I’m determined to make sure we have a smooth, clutter-free and positive school year.
As an avid believer in and the positive impact of having a decluttered and organized home, I believe having an organization system and clutter and junk free home are essential for ensuring positive energy flow and clear thought.
I highly recommend that parents use the beginning of a school year as another excuse to get organized, not just for the school routine, but the family home in general. So even if you did Spring or New Year cleaning, use the late summer/early fall to re-organize your life and priorities as well.
Even if your kids have already gone back, you can still get started. Here are some declutter and home organization tips that I’ve put together that I hope can help get you through the year.
Clean and Declutter the Kids Play, Work Rooms and Nursery. Limit the number of toys and books in the kids room. Get rid of old broken toys. Give away old books and toys to the Salvation Army, Good Will or another family member with children younger than yours. Keep only a few of the favorite story books and the toys your child or children play with regularly. Don’t let them know you’re getting rid of the stuff they don’t even play with. They likely won’t even know it and you don’t need the headache of having them plea for you to keep it.
Infuse Calming Scents in the Home. I’m a also a big believer in aromatheraphy and that scents guide the mood. Buy Glade or some other brand’s plugins to keep the air fresh and clean smelling. You can burn candles when you’re home or if you’re an incense type of person, those work too. Consider using those with essential oils or scents such as chamomile, rose, vanilla and lavender. They are calming scents.
Thoroughly Clean the Room. Wash and Wipe down the walls, baseboards, windows and floors — with natural cleaners. Repair wall holes, cracks, squeaky windows, peeling paint. A clean home is great for fostering clear thoughts and just clarity, in general.
Set up Calendar and Chore Lists. Even if you’re a stay-at-home mom, you shouldn’t be doing all of the cleaning and upkeep. Set up a chore sheet for the refrigerator for after school chores. Also, start a new family calendar for keeping up with back to school nights, upcoming field trips, sports activities and other events so everyone knows what’s going on. If you’re the family manager as mom, you shouldn’t be the only one aware of what days are soccer practice. Sitters, your spouse and house guests should too. Also, a chore list is great for keeping up the principles of feng shui which are all about clean spaces.
Keep Toys Dedicated to ONE area of the home (or maybe two) Avoid the chaotic mind that comes when you have toys and other things sprinkled in every nook and cranny of the home. Toys should be kept only to the play room, the kids room or one area of the apartment that is quartered off and situated with a toy chest, storage bin or some place where you can quickly toss all the toys hanging out all over the house. The tough part may be to stick to this one simple rule.
When the kids are not playing with a toy, there is really no need for it to be taking up space on the kitchen table or creating a tripping hazard for you or a guest. Either you, your partner or trained kids if they are old enough should make a concerted effort to gather all errant toys and keep them in the designated area.
It seems pretty intuitive, huh?
Over time, it will become a habit or second nature and you will find toys are not strewn about as much anymore. I do this with other areas of my home and life. All papers, books, newspapers, invoices, magazines are usually put away in our home office. All clothes go in a hamper, closet or bedroom. Dishes, cups and silverware discovered anywhere in the house are picked up and taken in the kitchen
Think of this mantra: “There is a place for Everything and Everything in its place.”
Organize the Paper Trails. Each year, families accumulate reports, information from school, permission slips and the such. It will get mixed in with bills, receipts, warranties and other paper that come into your life.
This Home Organization plan will make it easy for you: Get a binder or two and dividers or one of those mega accordion file folders with tabs and divide them in the following categories:
Car maintenance schedule/Receipts
School schedules and holiday list
School information page
School reading lists
Summer Camp and programs information
Medical information sheet for each family member
House-sitter information sheet
PTA newsletters and rosters
Prescription drug record
Health insurance information
Travel packing checklist
Vacation idea list
Home renovation contractor lists
Contracts and Bids
Home decorating ideas
Tax Documents for Business
Consultants and Independent Contractor records
Business & Office Equipment registry
Tax Documents for Personal
Big Ticket Items receipts
Life insurance information
Bills to pay
Hope these Declutter and Home Organization Tips are helpful to you as you get yourself and your family organized for the season! Good luck!
Are you planning a fall or winter wedding while still expecting your bundle of joy because you want to be married before baby arrives?
If so, chances are, you may be fretting how you’ll look with a bulbous belly on your big day. Fortunately for you, a lot of wedding designers now cater to pregnant brides. Several styles you’ll find sold from mass producers can be retrofitted to accommodate a baby bump.
In fact, when you conduct a search for wedding gowns online store, you’ll actually be surprised by the number of options out there. Compare the current situation to not long ago when brides-to-be who were simultaneously “moms-to-be” had very slim options.
The limits of styles, cuts, shapes and dimensions of dresses actually could cause a frustrated bride to give up.
As with bridesmaids dresses, a bride with a bump has to consider cut and shape and look for a gown or dress that flatters her body and her pregnant body. Avoid going with large tent dresses that can actually dwarf you.
Instead, aim for an A-line but or a dress with an empire waistline. That cut actually is the most common. It looks and feels good and less constraining on a growing midsection. Seriously consider opting for a bohemian wedding dress which would work perfectly for a more casual wedding, one on the beach or in a less formal venue.
Here are other things to consider
A. Comfort and Fit: Ultimately, you want a dress that flatters your figure and that you’ll feel great wearing. Look for a flowing empire-waisted gown, or a dress that can be ‘enhanced’ with an extra panel to accommodate that lovely baby bump of yours!
B. Alterations: Make sure you’ve got a good tailor who will be able to make last minute alterations a little bit in advance of the wedding date. As you know, all of those measurements are going to change. And then change some more.
C. Support: Speaking of those changing measurements, the right maternity bra can do wonders for a girl’s mood at a wedding, not to mention her back! Once you reach your third trimester, you will likely need to trade in those lacy bras and reach for something more substantial. Just don’t forget to make sure that your maternity bra works with your dress as the date nears.
Be mindful of your due date so if you’ve scheduled your wedding close to your delivery date, make sure all vendors have an option that preserves a portion of the deposit to be used after baby arrives.
Of course, consult with your doctor and ensure that the wedding venue is within a reasonable distance of your hospital or birthing center.
There is no hard fast rule you need to adhere to. Your comfort level and adherence to any style or fashion aesthetic or silhouette are the most important things to consider when shopping for your big day before your other big big day arrives!
If this is the year you plan to start a family, I invite you to download our Fertility 100 ebook with 100 tips and suggestions of things you and your partner can do to prepare yourselves for making a baby.
Most of the tips are related to dietary and other external changes, modifications, alterations or shifts you should consider to ensure you’re in optimal mode to procreate.
Now, it is possible that there may be medical, physiological, mental and other blocks or situational factors like age and such that may slow or hamper the process.
Students in the United States today face numerous challenges on campus among their peers. One of these challenges, unfortunately, is bullying.
These studies indicate that 28% of U.S. students from grades 6 to 12 experience bullying.
They also indicate that 20% of U.S. high school students (from grades 9 to 12) experience bullying. On the other end of the spectrum, one in three young people admit in surveys that they have bullied others. These actions don’t necessarily happen in private either. According to various studies that 70.6% of young people state that they’ve seen bullying at school.
Some of this visibility has led to active intervention, which has positive results. Studies show that when bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.
Cyberbullying is also a problem for U.S. students. Studies indicate 9% of students from grades 6 to 12 have experienced cyberbullying. This number jumps up to 15% amongst U.S. high school students (from grades 9 to 12).
When studies focus on LGBTQ students, the percentage of students cyberbullied dramatically increases to 55.2%.
Types of Bullying and the Percentage of Middle School Students Experiencing Them
Acts associated with physical bullying include hitting, kicking, spitting, tripping, punching, and pushing. Studies indicate 32.4% of middle school students have experienced bullying via pushing or shoving. The studies also show 29.2% of middle school students have experienced hitting, slapping, or kicking.
Acts associated with verbal bullying include name-calling, taunting, threatening or offensive notes, and inappropriate sexual comments. According to studies, 44.2% of middle school children have experienced name-calling. Studies also indicate that 43.3% of middle school kids have experienced teasing, and 23.7% of middle school children have experienced inappropriate sexual comments of gestures.
Acts associated with relational bullying include spreading false and/or harmful rumors, efforts to isolate the targeted student from peers, publicly writing derogatory comments, or posting embarrassing images in a physical or electronic space without the targeted student’s knowledge or permission. Studies indicate that 36.3% of middle school students have experienced the spreading of rumors or lies at their expense. Studies also show that 28.5% of middle school students have experienced being left out.
Damage to Property
Acts associated with property damage bullying include theft, altering or damaging the targeted student’s property, destroying a student’s property in their presence, or deleting personal electronic information.
Kids that experience bullying may exhibit various physical signs that correlate to negative effects, either personally or peripherally. These can include unexplainable injuries, frequent headaches or stomachaches, and lost or destroyed personal property.
Kids may also demonstrate various negative behavioral signs, such as feigning illness or sickness, difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares, changes in eating habits, poor or declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork or not wanting to go to school, feeling helpless or having a low sense of self-esteem. In some cases, the behavioral effects can manifest into self-destructive behaviors, such as self-harm, talking about suicide, or running away from home
Read more and check out this infographic that diagrams the epidemic and offers a few solutions and preventative tips:
Things sure have changed since I was younger and in college.
These days, luxe, glammed up dorm rooms are en vogue. Roommates are getting together to coordinate their dorm rooms so they have a more comfy homey feel to them.
And while girls are on this trend more so than boys, the fellas are getting in on it too, decorating their rooms to fit their personalities by adding personal touches beyond just photo collages and posters.
To accomplish a posh dorm room, it’s probably smart to start with the school residential housing policy for what can be in the room and what not. Most schools forbid nailing items to walls, using certain electrical appliances and adding in furniture that the room doesn’t already come with. A quick check will give you a guide.
Next, start with the essentials and get those from basic box stores like Walmart, Target and Best Buy. Then, determine with the roommate what color palette to go with, Pewter, black, white, pink etc and purchase accessories in the three basic tones or shades of that selected color grouping.
If your kid moves in before getting to talk to the roommate, small accent pillows, frames and lamps can be purchased later during a weekend trip home to bring a color theme together.
Finally, add the fluff. Go to Discount stores like Home Goods, TJ Maxx, Marshall’s or Ross and the like which sell a lot of cute, quaint and adorable home items with a lot of personality at a heavily discounted price.
If money is not an object, a lot of the upscale and higher end retailers like Pottery Barn, Elle Decor or Ethan Allen Galleries.
With the economy on the downturn slightly, some families may be feeling the pinch and purchasing school supplies, getting immunizations and paying for haircuts and style could be a bit much for the budget.
Luckily, a lot of barber shops, religious, community and civic groups have organized events where they help parents out.
We’re already deep into back-to-school season and several of these have passed but I managed to dig up a few more in my area, DC, Maryland and Virginia and a few others. Do a Facebook, Google Events or Eventbrite search for one near you.
Here are the ones I found. Good luck!
District of Columbia
What: Back to school physical exam, Birth Control options for college students, STI discussion and primary care needs for medicaid /private pay
Where: The Charles County Department of Health provides immunizations through the Vaccines for Children (VFC) Program to eligible children living in Charles County. Our goal is to educate and assist caregivers with making decisions that will protect them, their children, and the community. We offer back-to-school, childhood, and preteen and adolescent vaccines.
A child is eligible for the VFC Program if he or she is younger than 19 years of age and is one of the following:
Covered by Medical Assistance
Underinsured (has health insurance that doesn’t cover vaccines)
Where: Doris Miller Community Center, 2400 Washington Ave., Newport News, VA 23607
Deets: call 757-247-8603 for hair appointments.
What: Better Barbers Back To School Bash! GRADES K-12 Come out and join us at our first annual Back To School Bash! We will be providing *free haircuts, LOTS of school supplies, food, drinks, snacks, games and prizes for the children! Come out and celebrate the beginning of new and successful school year. School supplies will be distributed on a first come first-served basis. We currently have 121 bags to give away and the child must be present to receive a bag. If you’re vegan don’t worry, we’ve got you covered! We are looking forward to seeing everyone
When: Friday, August 30, 2019 from 2-5pm
Where: Better Barbers Tidewater Dr 7468 Tidewater Dr unit B, Norfolk, Virginia 23505
What:Village Family and Partners Back2School Expo, This is an annual community effort to help youth and families prepare for the school year that is right around the corner. Come and join us in this fun event for children of all ages.FREE backpacks & school supplies. MUSIC BY DJ NAKYLLA
When: Saturday, September 7, 2019 from 1-5pm
Where: Military Circle Mall, 880 N. Military Circle Mall, Norfolk Virginia 23502