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Fire! Erica Mena and Safaree’s Speakeasy Themed Maternity Pics

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VH1 Love and Hip Hop stars Erica Mena and Safaree Samuels are preparing for a wedding and to welcome their first child together, but they still made time to pose for a glamorous roaring 20s speakeasy themed maternity photo shoot.

Mena shared some photos from the shoot last week and more elegant thematic ones more recently. In the newer photos, Mena sits on a vintage car in an off white slip dress, her hair in traditional waves common of that era.

Her fiance and co-star rapper Safaree looks dapper in a white shirt with tan wide bottom pants and overall while toting a vintage rifle common with that age in time.

It’s super cute! Here are a few and head over to their accounts for more

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8 Remarkable Ways Cooking Is A Form of Self Care {INFOGRAPHIC}

Challenging is good, getting fed up is not.

Cooking provides a healthy balance. Julia Ohana, master social worker and culinary therapist, explains that the combo of engaging our brain and providing nourishment for ourselves and others leads to psychological benefits.

Getting pleasantly immersed in a challenge that will yield basic, pleasurable results (e.g. food), our bodies are calmly lulled into a meditative state when we mindfully cook — quite literally, we get lost in the sauce.

No, you’re not going to experience these feelings while throwing a Kid Cuisine into the microwave. Instead, truly think about what adds to the dish at hand when you make a meal from scratch. Maybe grabbing some tumeric from the drawer above will add the perfect amount of tang, or dashing some lemon juice from the fridge will spritz up your meal. Anything is a go-to ingredient, just customize thoughtfully and methodically.

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11 Stylish Pieces to Have in Your Fall Wardrobe

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It’s officially Fall!

Sweater weather is finally here in my neck of the woods where temperatures have now dipped to 60 to 70 degrees which means it’s time for Fall fashion!

There is a slight chill in the air, the leaves have turned to shades of yellow, red and brown and are falling off of the trees, harvest festivals are packed on weekends and stores and cafes are selling all things pumpkin spice.

Autumn is my favorite season of all because it’s not as hot as the Summer, not bone chilling cold as the Winter and I’m not sneezing from Spring allergies. I love Fall seasonal clothing the best and have showcased fall fashion on my fashion Instagram account, Wahmstyle, more than any other type of styles.

Here  are my fave fall looks from past posts that are timeless and never go out of style.

This time of  year, is the best time to pull these items out of the closet:

Plaid Jackets and Shirts

I generally associate plain flannel with this season. It makes me think of chopping wood, apple picking and weekend hikes through trails.

I incorporate plaid in my wardrobe via shirts in various checkered patterns that I wear overtop a knit or jersey tee like in this post below.

The right shirt is soft to touch, and rugged. Pair them with jeans or yoga pants with low boots and you’ve got a winning look.

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Designer Scarves

While scarves can be worn in all seasons, you can really show them off and get max functionality out of them in cooler seasons.

I love to wrap mine around my neck and use them as an extra layer of warmth when it’s too warm for a full jacket.

I invested in a Burberry scarf with its signature checkered print because it is a timeless piece and recognizable as such.

I tend to stick with neutral colors so this pattern serves me well as it can be worn with most of my outfits.

You don’t have to stick with logo scarves, as any quality scarf will do and the quality will stand out even if you are wearing a bunch of cheaper fast fashion pieces with it.

Layered accessories

Arguably, you can wear accessories at any time of the year but in the cooler temps, you have an excuse to go BIG and go with chunky heavier necklaces, statement rings and bracelets.

Off the shoulder sweaters

In the early fall, to avoid overheating, people wear lighter sweaters but a good off-the-shoulder sweater can bring the sexy out.

You can get a normal over-sized sweater and slouch it over one shoulder for a Flash Dance esque look!

Studded Black Cowboy Boots

Fall is the start of boots weather and cowboy boots like Fashion Riding boots are a timeless option.

I like wearing a more urban fashion remixed version with less stitching and more buckles at the angle in a low boot.


For the weekend and regular athletic or gym-going types, a sweatshirt is a staple. For those who wear them for style, a shirt with a cute saying or logo in the front is a great fall wear option.


You can always don a pantsuit but in the fall, to me, you have an excuse to wear one less formally over a screen tee for a semi casual biz meeting or event.

Red Nail Polish

I look forward to wearing darkest colors on my nails in the fall and especially red! In my mind, burgundy, magenta, crimson and candy apple red nail polish should be reserved for autumn.

Sweater Dresses

If you get a sheath sweater dress you can add a belt to accentuate your waist or just wear is straight with boots. There are so many options with this item of clothing.

You do have to be careful in warmer early Fall, to not get a too thick dress.

Dark Denim Jeans

You can literally dress up or down a pair of denims in a dark shade with pearls and a cashmere sweater (up) of a tee of sweatshirt(down). I love the versatility and slimming effect of dark denims, especially slim cut or boyfriend cut ones.

Knit Scarves

Like the designer scarf, the knit scarf adds the option of keeping you warm when it’s not yet coat wearing temps out.

You can get a cashmere pashmina and double it up as a blanket to keep you warm in the office

Shay Mitchell: Hiding Pregnancy Caused Pre-Partum Depression

“Pretty Little Liars” star Shay Mitchell did not reveal her pregnancy publicly for nearly six months, a period of isolation that she said left her in a “severe depression.”

“I think it’s really interesting that pre-partum depression or feelings of isolation in pregnancy are not more vastly discussed,” Mitchell, 32, said in a newspaper  interview with the maternity lifestyle brand Hatch. “Feeling that I was alone in my depression compounded my state of mind, but [I] have found since sharing the news publicly that many women feel as I did.”

“Pregnancy can be a hard time, especially if you’re having to hide it,” she said. “After I came out publicly, I felt an enormous wave of relief and was finally able to start enjoying the pregnancy.

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A Secular Family’s Guide to Halloween and Religious Holidays

by Maria Polonchek

I don’t remember how my husband Chris and I ended up with six-month-old twins dressed as vegetables—a chili pepper and a pea pod, to be precise—the first Halloween we were parents. I’ll admit the whole thing sounds very much like the result of a middle-of-the-night-nursing and Internet-browsing session. Regardless, they were pretty cute, as far as produce goes, and we wanted to show them off. At the last minute, we decided to throw on overalls (an article of clothing every good Kansan should own), dress as farmers, and take the veggies downtown, where we’d heard there was annual storefront trick-or-treating.

We did not head out the door that night intending for Halloween to become our family thing. In our Midwestern college town, we discovered, students ranging in age from preschool to graduate school flock downtown to the local businesses, who open their doors after hours and hand out candy from cauldrons and wheelbarrows. Everyone dresses up and the restaurants overflow with happy witches and silly superheroes, nibbling candy, drinking beer, eating French fries. Neither of us had participated in the festivities before becoming parents but realized, at least in this town, you’re never too old to be something for Halloween.

For the next five years, the downtown trick-or-treat tour was tradition, and our family’s passion for Halloween blossomed. While the twins were young, we dressed in themes: the farmers and veggies, Dr. Seuss characters, a family of pirates. Within a few years, though, the boys were ready to fulfill their own costume visions and left Chris and I on our own to coordinate. Halloween became our immediate family’s most consistent annual tradition, the holiday we made our own. The summer we moved to California, I had a harder time thinking of being away for Halloween more than any other day.

Chris and I are raising our children outside of religion, which is not unlike relocating to a new place: it’s both liberating and daunting to be free from constraints that inform our rituals and traditions. On the one hand, the possibilities are endless. We can determine for ourselves what values we want to express, what connections we want to nurture, and when, where, and how we do it. On the other hand, precisely because the possibilities are endless and we can make adjustments, we may notice “tradition” lacking in qualities that help define it: predictability, commitment, endurance.

It’s worth taking on the challenge: a whole body of research points to the fact that rituals and traditions benefit children in a number of ways, including academically, emotionally, and socially.  As I’ve seen first hand, being able to count on a predictable set of behaviors and activities around certain landmark dates brings children a sense of stability and security. Opportunities to contribute to these activities helps kids feel useful and needed, shaping identity and a sense of purpose. Participating alongside family and community members, regardless of differences in age and lifestyle, combats sentiments of self-centeredness and encourages empathy and generosity — all while creating lasting memories of positive emotions. It seems important, then, for all families, religious or not, to find meaningful traditions of their own.

We’d begun our Halloween tradition haphazardly, out of convenience more than anything else, as the logistics—who, what, when, where, how—were already answered for us. We didn’t really need to think about it; we just showed up to a party that had already been planned. Over time we developed an approach that stuck, one we could emulate even after we moved away from our familiar environment near family.

Thus I realized: holidays like Halloween, with little or no religious baggage, are the perfect occasions for creating solid family traditions outside of religion.

Thanksgiving is another great example. It can be tricky to come up with a formula for creating tradition outside of the mainstream. I’ve learned, though, that creating new traditions can be a celebration of creativity and imagination.

Below are my suggestions for how to navigate the ins and outs of creating meaningful traditions for your family, with or without religion:

  • Pick your occasions. Take a look at some of the activities and holidays your family has already established as routine. Ask your children what parts they enjoy and why. Consider what the activity expresses about the group and how each person can participate. Whether it’s Valentine’s Day, the summer equinox, or even Superbowl Sunday, make your picks and stick with them. Ritual and tradition is not so much what you do; it’s how you do it, together: with regularity, intention, and commitment.
  • Own it. Reflect on your values and the things that give your family life meaning so that you are fully behind the actions. Consider the historical and/or philosophical reasons and meanings behind established traditions and create versions of your own to honor those that resonate. If you notice something lacking—an activity that expresses generosity or service, for example—come up with an activity that reflects this value and fold it in.
  • Make room for others. Traditions are connectors; they link us to one another, which requires patience, understanding, and compromise. Remember, just as we don’t always resonate with traditions from past generations, so our children won’t always resonate with ours. Participating in tradition can be a practice in selflessness and acceptance.
  • Allow for flexibility. While a defining component of tradition is its predictability, we also must allow for (and even embrace) change and differences. The level of flexibility needed won’t be the same for every family. Perhaps the location is always different, but the activity is the same. Or the location is the same, but some of the people participating rotate. Families who struggle with differences in worldview or belief can still come together to celebrate shared values in creative ways that work for everyone.
  • Be committed. Because tradition can serve as a touchstone in times of change and difficulty, it’s important to keep it going even when the going gets rough. It can sometimes feel like pressure or burden on the leaders of the group, but if you’re struggling, take a moment to reflect on the benefits, talk to your kids about what they find meaningful, and make adjustments that work for the entire family.

About the Author

Maria Polonchek is author of In Good Faith: Secular Parenting in a Religious World (Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, August 2017). Part memoir, part cultural exploration, In Good Faith examines how to raise children with a sense of identity, belonging and meaning outside of religion. Maria holds a BA in English and an MFA in Creative Nonfiction from the University of Kansas. Her parenting essays can be found in outlets such as Brain, Child, Have Milk, Will Travel, The Greater Good Science Center, The Friendly Atheist and Brian, Mother. A Kansas native, she lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and three children. In addition to thinking, reading and writing about parenting, she is passionate about wellness, mindfulness, the outdoors, music, art – and the way all of these things relate to social justice.

Actress and Dancer Jenna Dewan is Expecting

Jenna Dewan is pregnant!

Congrats to actress and dancer Jenna Dewan who is expecting her second child, but her first with her actor boyfriend Steve Kazee.

According to PEOPLE magazine, the baby is due in 2020. Dewan has a 6-year old daughter named Everly with her  ex husband Channing Tatum.

Dewan posted an elusive photo of Everly who she only shows the back of and keeps pretty private and from the public eye.

“Becoming a mother is quite simply the absolute best ost incredible thing that has ever happened to me,” she wrote. “@stevekazee you are a gift from above and i couldn’t be more excited to be expanding our family together…!”

Jenna and Steve have been dating since the Fall of 2018. Congrats!

Study: Antidepressants During Pregnancy Increases Gestational Diabetes Risk

Taking antidepressants while pregnant may be associated with an increased risk of gestational diabetes, a new study suggests.

published in the journal BMJ Open on Tuesday. The study suggests a correlation but not causation.

“This study gives another piece of the puzzle showing increased risk of using antidepressants during pregnancy,” said Anick Bérard, a professor at the University of Montreal in Canada and director of research on medications and pregnancy at CHU Sainte-Justine Medical Center, who was senior author of the study.

“Depression needs to be treated during pregnancy. There are many forms of treatments — antidepressants is one of them,” she said. “If a woman is pregnant and is taking antidepressants, she should not stop by herself but should have an informed discussion with her treating physician to assess the best way forward.”

Gestational diabetes, a type of diabetes that can develop during pregnancy in women, can increase the risk of certain complications for both the mother and baby, including risks of high blood pressure for the expectant mother, needing a cesarean section delivery, having low blood sugar for the baby and developing type 2 diabetes later in life for the baby.

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Watch Erica Mena and Safaree’s Fun Gender Non Reveal Video

Before the birth of their first child together, the married VH1 stars of the hit show Love and Hip Hop  Safaree and Erica Mena performed a series of gender reveals to find out whether they’re having a boy or girl.

In the set of stringed-together shorts, they try three very popular gender reveal tactics to determine if they are having a boy or girl for their first child together. First, they cut open a white frosted several-layered cake hoping to see a pink or blue colored inside but no luck!

There is a set of different colored layers of a rainbow cake. Womp Womp Womp!!! Next up…the balloon reveal. Will this trick reveal the baby’s sex or no?

A bunch of white balloons drift out when they open it together at the count of 3 so… no luck there, either. Their banter is pretty funny in between each “reveal.” Finally, they dry the usual poppers which usually stream out pink or blue confetti if done right.  But for the Samuels, they get a bunch of tiny bills flowing out! Not “tiny” as in $1s but as in miniature bills! ha!

It’s a fun reveal and in the end, we still do not know. Stay tuned!

Love & Hip Hop New York follows the lives and relationships of hip-hop artists as they make their mark on the Big Apple. The cast includes the outspoken Joe Budden, Cyn Santana, Remy Ma, Papoose, Juelz Santana, Kim “Kimbella” Vanderhee and more.

5 Tricks for Mastering Nightly Homework Monster

When it comes to homework, teachers have heard every excuse in the book, and for good reason; it’s hard to focus on your homework when there’s so much of it to do.

Students are devoting hours each evening to their take-home assignments, some say to the tune of 17.5 hours per week.

In a survey of 1,000 Brainly users comprised of students in middle and high school, 70% said they have trouble focusing on their homework. Brainly asked respondents to pick any of the following five options that distract them from their homework at least once a week. Here are the results:

  1. Social media (47% selected)
  2. Video/mobile games (39%)
  3. A noisy home environment (39%)
  4. Extracurricular activities (25%)
  5. Job or work (22%)

Changing habits like these takes repetition and dedication. Luckily, there are five actionable habits students can use to make homework more focused, more efficient, and eventually more successful. They can be easily remembered with this simple acronym:

SPARK: Space, Prioritize, Attack, Relax, and Keep at it.

1. SPACE yourself.

Nearly half of the respondents cited environment-related options as a diversion from homework. This included 46% of middle-school students choosing video games, 51% of high-schoolers selecting social media, and 39% overall picking a noisy home environment.

It’s essential to make after-school workspaces as clean, quiet, and distraction-free as possible. Clean means organized and clear of disturbing clutter. Check the writing surface and surrounding area. How much more likely would a student be to grab a device sitting at arm’s reach than if it’s put away?

Another crucial aspect of this process is noise. Separation from attention-grabbing sounds, like TVs and chatty family members, keeps a student’s mind following the pages their eyes are seeing. Another good tip is to put phones on silent (not vibrate) and place it face down, far away from the desk. This ensures students aren’t encouraged to check it habitually and can focus on the task at hand.

Try and keep the designated homework space as consistent as possible. Stick with a repetitive location whenever possible, which will allow a student’s brain to put on its thinking cap more quickly. And just say “no” to homework in bed!

2. PRIORITIZE a schedule.

Colleges take notice of the activities you take on after school, especially when they help you display passion or leadership. However, it’s important to leave time for homework too so that grades don’t suffer.

Balance is critical to keeping a sane, realistic after-school schedule. If students are overloaded with extracurricular activities, they’ll struggle to find time for everything else. At the same time, if they spend too much time on homework they’ll start to lose quality in their answers.

Extracurricular activities proved to be detrimental to homework productivity for 24.5% of respondents. Jobs and work affected 12% of middle-school students, as opposed to 25% of high school students. Of the users Brainly surveyed, those in middle school said they have more time to finish their homework. 40% said “always/yes,” as opposed to 28% of high school students. Only 6% said “rarely/no,” as compared to 13% of high-schoolers.

If students have activities after work, they should make to also schedule in homework time. Furthermore, if a student is finding it hard to fit all their homework into their schedule, it might be time to reconsider chosen activities. The key to prioritizing success is to plan.

3. ATTACK homework problems.

A problem set or multi-page assignment can look insurmountable, especially if someone’s not feeling totally comfortable with the material from class. It’s easy to get lost in preparation.

Don’t waste time trying to understand everything; get hands-on and hit problems one issue at a time. Something started is one step closer to being finished! Break the questions down into what is already known, and use those parts to work towards the answer. Taking a step towards the solution makes a person more invested in getting there.

If a snag is hit while trying to answer the problem or question, that’s a great time to go back into the concepts to try and find the specific resource. Students can use a glossary, textbook, or notes from class for a reminder of what was taught.

4. RELAX and take breaks.

Here’s the good news: As long as they’re scheduled and not abused, taking breaks can actually help a student finish their homework! A quick pause can help to rejuvenate some of that motivation that got them started.

If stress sets in, take the opportunity to relax. Students can close their eyes and take a few deep breaths. If it helps, put on some relaxing music. Another way to take a proactive break is to do something active. Stand up and stretch to get more oxygen flowing to the brain. If this is a more extended break, do some quick physical exercises or walk around outside for a few minutes. Everyone gets through their work a lot faster when their minds are feeling alert!

Even a regulated screen break can help students refocus. Taking a minute to check news feeds, respond to messages, or play a quick game can enable the brain to decompress and ready itself for the challenge ahead.

Be careful to limit these breaks so as not to waste time. To start, keep it at 10 to 15 minutes and try to accomplish at least an hour of work before taking another one.

5. KEEP at it.

Whether it’s a tough question or just a seemingly endless assignment, it’s easy just to give up. But, when a student is equipped with everything they need and keeps their focus forward, they can get through it!

Start by getting equipped with everything needed. Finish by keeping the focus forward and knowing when to move on. Before starting, gather everything that can help with the homework. Textbooks, print-outs, and websites all qualify. This way, when a student gets stuck, they’ve got everything that could help right in front of them. If resources have ran out, it’s best for the student to take their best guess, make a note, and move on.

These are all critical steps to success. Use what is known to make the best possible educated guess, and remember to ask a teacher or mentor about it the next day. And move on quickly, so the brain stays motivated to attack what’s next.

Why Hilaria Baldwin Revealed her 5th Pregnancy at 6 Weeks Pregnant

Hilaria Baldwin is expecting her fifth child with her husband Alec Baldwin.

This time, the celebrity yoga instructor chose to share the news when she was barely one month along. Traditional wisdom and advice from doctors say moms-to-be should wait  until three months or until the baby’s heartbeat can be heard before announcing the news.

By that time, the risk of miscarriage false tremendously.

When you’ve had so many babies, 6 minutes pregnant = looking like 6 months pregnant,” the yoga instructor joked about her tiny protruding belly while announcing the pregnancy.

When one of her fans asked why she decided to reveal this news so early, Hilaria replied that after having a miscarriage in April, she did not want to wait to answer speculation from fans.

“People poke around and try to find out what is going on,” she said. “When you simply share what is happening, you take the story into your own hands and they tend to leave you alone more. Secrets are only interesting when they are secrets. Reports of my belly growing or my appearance changing spark rumors. That brings attention.”

She continued, “Me coming out and saying what is going on gets the news out there … then they move on to the next story. It’s been something I’ve learned over the past decade … this is one of the reasons I’m so active on social media. The news can take images for free from my page rather than paying a paparazzi to come follow me.”

She and Alec marreid in 2012 and started a family right away in 2013 with the birth of their oldest daughter, Carmen Gabriela, followed by son Rafael Thomas, another son Leonardo Angel Charles in 2016, and 1-year-old son Romeo Alejandro David, born last year.

Alec has a 23-year old daughter named Ireland from his first marriage to actress Kim Basinger.

In June, Hilaria told People, “Why not keep going? They’re my favorite things in the world so why not? I never expected to have a big family but since we signed on to it, at this point, why not? Why not keep going?”

There you go! Congrats and good luck!