Certainly, my 21 month old has a future in Magic! She is the master at pulling out objects from thin air. I swear, at some point while holding her I will turn to find her chewing some mystical object she’s found on the floor or holding some bottle, craft, paper or something she swiped from a desk, counter or table as I travel about with her in my arms. It makes me surprised every time! LOL!
The cute thing she’s saying these days: “Eww Eww Eww! That’s Nasty!”
She usually utter these words during poo poo diaper changing times or when something icky gets on her fingers and she wants me to remove it. Tres girly, which gives me hope that this ephemeral Tom Boy may have prissy princess in her yet! ha!
It is said that the sucking reflex and act of sucking can sooth and calm a baby who is not in control of its environment and wants some comfort. But that excuse cannot justify a 3 year old walking around with a pacifier, which I have seen plenty. According to experts, parents who permit older children to do that have given in to a quick and easy means of consoling a child and have not tried other options to calm the child as he/she grows. I know I cringe every time I see them around, even one of Brittney Spear’s kid is always photographed with a pacifier in his mouth. I admit we were lucky in that none of our three children had a dependency on those things. However, besides getting side eye glances from folks, I do not believe it is good for the child past infancy to be dependent on a pacifier. I’ve read it isn’t great for their digestive system. Also, it can cause parents to miss cues for hunger. The child can get frustrated too at sucking and getting no nourishment to pacify the hunger pangs. I’d suggest that if you have an infant who prefers and is calmed by one that you let her have it to sooth her and then when she is calm or falls asleep you remove it immediately. Also, try other means of calming her down or letting her suck on a clean knuckle for a few seconds and take it out. Anything to not encourage her to develop such a bad habit!
While I have found the Baby Einstein type DVDs and the Your Baby Can Read DVDs fun and educational, overall I agree with all the critics out there have to say about the television. It is easy to let it be a baby sitter, but the time spent in front of the boob tube could better be spent doing a craft, playing outdoors, reading a book, figuring out a puzzle, or doing some other thing that challenges a child to use his/her brain and not passively take in stimulus from a screen. I used to be of the mind that a little television cannot hurt, but for some children, they do not understand moderation and if not controlled can literally become addicted to television. I say this from experience and I say it’s always best to learn and/or take into account other people’s mistakes and experiences so you do not repeat them.
I know it will be a while before your child would even know how to manage a Wii console or maneuver a joy stick, but it is a brain drain! Granted a child may learn hand/eye coordination, but in my house and in many houses across the globe, children who are accustomed to playing video games can be reluctant readers. They may not want to explore nature and life outside the house. They may not be so eager to delve into a good book when they are addicted to the instant gratification of outscoring the computer/game console. My parents made a decision to not let us have video games because they feared it would distract from our learning and degrade our natural curiosity to explore and learn. I must say having made the mistake in letting my eldest have a game console when he was 4 has been GRAVE. We are having a tough time getting him into loving books for fun rather than consider having to spend time reading as punishment. He lives for the weekends when we let him indulge and play, but would never opt to pick up a good book. These days, a friend of mine and my son’s 2nd grade teacher suggested books on CDs that he can read along to and so far so good. He has finished an entire chapter book in one day and he wanted to continue reading. All that to say, if you can AVOID IT, do not let your child near a video game for as long as humanly possible, even if all his friends have them and access to them. It’s a BAD HABIT you do NOT want to start. Don’t think of it as depriving your child from a toy, but investing in his education and learning habits/skills.
From infancy to toddlerhood, nothing drains your time and restricts your ability to get house work done, take the groceries out of the car without hearing a wailing baby or cook like a child who does not like to be put down. Especially for first time parents, they do not like to hear their child cry, suffer, whimper or be distressed in any way. They (like I did) are then not inclined to put a child down after she has fallen asleep or is soothed. Cribs, Bassinets, Bouncy Seats, Play mats and Swings are made to give you a rest and to train your child to sleep, rest or play on their own. By encouraging the habit of being used to being carried around, you are setting yourself up to being a slave to that child. For infants and babies, you are setting up your child care giver and/or babysitter who some times do not care for your child alone. Who is going to want to babysit your spoiled child when he has a reputation for wanting to be carried in order to be soothed. Aye! As a toddler, she will refuse to walk into the day care or let you cook because she will want to be picked up. When you don’t oblige, prepare for the tantrums. It’s better on your patience, time and ears, if you just try your best to get your child NOT used to being carried all the time.
HEED TO THESE WARNINGS of a “BEEN THERE, DONE THAT” parent! You DON’T want to go there.
I spyed this from carf’s photostream…I like it because it says, “mom, I’m going to be a big brother!” There is a backstory there too about single moms in Brazil (which this woman is). You’d have to read the comments to the photo to get into it. I’m not going into it here, right now.
Carf is an amazing photographer and does an excellent job capturing moving real human moments like this…Wonderful! Bela!
Also, for reasons of maintaining a sterile environment, many hospitals will have dads put on over street clothes itchy mesh disposable scrubs or an old washed up pair of linen scrubs out of the daddy pile before allowing them to go into the Operating rooms for C-sections or in NICUs. I imagine, there is a class of dads who may have been more comfortable in their own.
Personally, I find scrubs rather comfortable. In the past, my sister, who has worked in several hospitals has provided me and my husband pairs of scrubs and we wear them as pajamas. So we appreciate the comfort of your own pair of scrubs and thus why this is a cool invention.
The concept was created out of the mind of an expecting dad for other dads.
I am a firm believer that moms come up with the best inventions and apparently, so do dads!
You can order your pair on the DaddyScrubs.com website. I think they’d make a great gift to any expectant father!
In light of the newly released FTC rules (Released today) that require Bloggers to DISCLOSE relationships with products they review, I have to let you know that I will be sent a coffee mug (retail value $6.99) for posting this review, though I’d let you know I thought this was a great invention before I even saw the part about getting a mug. SMILE.
Guess, I have to update the blog with a general disclaimer in a few.
So as promised, here are GG’s Before and After school photos. The first is the photo taken this summer when I did her hair (shamefully, not well) and the second is at her new school where a day care provider who knows how to braid did me a favor and hooked up GG’s hair much to my pleasant surprise. I’m happy with the results. I prefer the second photo. I also notice how fatter GG has become since she switched to drinking whole milk and off of the breast. She is 27lbs at 21 months old. Oh my poor aching hips. But I’m getting “Michelle Obama” arms, well my left arm which usually is the one I carry her on is anyway…funny!
In other GG news, she is a terrorizing bully in her class right now. I’m working on getting her to quit that biting habit, but what to do about her bullying and bossing around the other toddlers in her class? Eeek! My two boys did not assault other kids this way but this chica is a little more agressive I see. We’ll work it out…
What is notable in all this is that the woman had one of those Birth Announcement Signs on her lawn. It is clear this wasn’t necessarily a pre-meditated crime because the Baby thief attacked Ms. Gurolla with a knife from Gurolla’s own kitchen. It appears that the crime was done by an obviously disturbed individual who may have been motivated on the spur of the moment after seeing that sign. Many times, women are left alone after their spouses return to work. It looks like this criminal just took her chances and got lucky in her quest to steal a baby.
My sister decorated my house and we had lawn signs with our first child announcing to our neighbors that the baby was here, however, we never thought about the possible psychos out there roaming the streets. After our 2nd and 3rd kids, we read all the warnings and were certain to not make that mistake to announce our joy in that way.
In any event, this case is a tragic reminder to us all to skip the lawn announcements and stick with personal announcements and celebrations. This Washington Post story confirms that because of increased security in maternity wards, there are less hospital abductions and these baby thieves are turning to homes.
And this story is another commentary about the victimization of immigrant women. This is not the first case with immigrants. That group is picked on because of the perception they will not report the crime for fear of being deported. Ms. Gurolla’s status is unknown at this moment, but I’d be like her and not care if they deport me so long as I get my baby back!
And perhaps we can go a little further and warn authors of personal blogs to be mindful to not reveal too much about their location and names because you never know who is following your progress and may be ready to pounce on an opportunity.
Scary world we live in!
CONTEST ENDS OCTOBER 21 at MIDNIGHT. I will select winners randomly using the integer thingy mamabob all bloggers use.
From Photographer J Michael Sullivan’s Flickr Stream: A photograph of my sister when she was pregnant with her daughter a few years back. Shot in the beautiful Vermont countryside on a glorious summer day. The film was unfortunately stolen in Africa, so all that remains is this meager scan.
I love the perspective. So beautiful…
At some point last week, I got an email inviting me to nominate myself and post a badge encouraging my readers to also nominate me for one of The Bump’s first annual Blog Awards. I scanned all the categories (Fertility, Pregnancy, Baby Journal, Adoption, Daddy, Multiples, Working Mom, Stay-at-home, Special needs, Local, Designer, Fashion, Eco-Friendly, Crafty and Baby Bargains) and figure I’d best fit into the Pregnancy category even though that seemed to be aimed at currently pregnant women who are documenting their actual experience as they go through it. Bellyitch doesn’t fit in any other category really.
I was excited, but having had a very busy week was only able to actually dig into the nomination page late in the week. At that point, I realized that it was a wrap for Heir to Blair. Like every other commenter was nominating this very funny blog by a soon-to-be mommy with the pen name Blair.
She is very witty, snarky and is an amazingly HI-LA-RI-OUS story teller!
Her posts are pure comic relief and she offers a very refreshing and entertaining take on pregnancy. She doesn’t hold back but is careful not to overindulge down the “T.M.I” zone (too much information) so says her very clever Blog header (see above). Though watch out, currently the first page features a photo (similar to one I’ve posted in the past) of a swollen foot! Her post about this ‘foot’ is a very funny one nonetheless.
I won’t spoil the fun, check out Heir to Blair and if you like what you read compared to other pregnancy blogs you’ve seen, nominate her blog, or any one of the past Bellyitch Pregnancy Blog Spotlights who are still pregnant.
I think I’m going to still nominate Bellyitch for good measure anyway! I believe in miracles! ha!