I peeped this photo of J.Lo on Traci’s Fashionista and Baby blog the other day confirming that J.Lo is most likely preggers. She looks more than 3 months though to me which makes me think she’s been waiting to come out with her announcement perhaps because she has had a history of loss and miscarriage. She is older and has been trying for a while. Nicole Richie waited until she was 4 months to make her big announcement.
Then I thought about the recent announcement from rapper Foxy Brown’s manager that despite an August announcement that Foxy was 3 months pregnant, it was later announced that Foxy is NOT PREGNANT. No one is talking about the fact that she probably was pregnant but had a miscarriage.
Miscarriage is quite a taboo topic still. I imagine perhaps that most celebrities are well aware of the statistics and are waiting the requisite 3-months as suggested by docs. By 3 months, if you can see and hear the heartbeat, chances are the fetus will thrive for the duration of the pregnancy. Notwithstanding, those who know know and those who don’t won’t because it is a taboo topic that is not discussed much. Even when Whitney Houston suffered a miscarriage on the set of “The Bodyguard” after taking some private time to deal with the loss, she discussed it. She later sufferer through another publicized miscarriage in 1994. I vividly remember before watching her during a performance on TV in 1994 and noticing that she was chubbier and had an obvious bump. I was so sad to hear she had a second loss. This second loss was after she gave birth to her only daughter Bobbi Christina who she had with her husband Bobby Brown in 1993.
But back then, there wasn’t this big baby bump watch phenomenon and there weren’t big ANNOUNCEMENTS proceeded by stalker-like following of celeb pregnancies as now.
These days, celebs themselves are making public statements and strategically selecting how to announce their expectant arrivals. And still, not all celebs know the 3-month hush rule.
For example, there were early confirmed reports that R&B singer Ashanti was pregnant with rapper Nelly’s child and Kelly Rowland herself confirmed she was pregnant when she was merely two months pregnant. However, after 9 months passed with no baby from either, it must be assumed that they each had miscarriages. While early term losses are not really heard of, we do hear about the later term losses like that suffered by Tiny from the defunct-hip hop group Xscape and the full term still born loss of Rev. Run’s wife Justine.
It’s too bad more new moms aren’t aware of how prevalent miscarriage is so they do not feel alone, isolated or that they did something wrong for going through it.. I think of one particular holiday party I had at my home and after the party, my husband and I noted that there were at least 5 women there (including me) who all had miscarriages, and one woman lost her child at 5months and had a still birth delivery.
Anyway, that is it for my deep pontification of the week!