As a brand-new mom, you could use some help around the house for a week or two. As brandnew grandmas, your mother and mother-inlaw can’t wait for a chance to come for a visit. It seems like a match made in Heaven, but is it?
Pairing their high expectations with your postpartum exhaustion and newmom insecurities could have its perils. Some pre-planning, plus a few discussions about what you can and can’t expect, could help keep hurt feelings at bay and make this time spent with mom or mom-in-law one of joy rather than extra stress.
A Timely Arrival
If mother or mother-in-law is traveling to visit you, a key consideration is timing. You and your partner should agree on whether you want her to be there for the birth, in the first days after, or later when you’ve had a chance to catch your breath. The hospital and early days at home are overwhelming, and the last thing you need is to have a mother or mother-in-law around who feels like a guest that you have to host. If your mother or mother-in-law lives in town, you and your partner can decide whether you want her to stay with you or just visit at scheduled times.