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Trending Indian Salwar Suits: How to look stylish Without Cultural Appropriating

I’ve blogged before about how a lot of American celebrities have embraced fashion and culture of India. In recent years, celebs like Beyonce, Coldplay, Major Lazer, DJ Snake and others traveled to India to shoot videos, after borrowing Indian instruments and sounds to create their hit songs. You can see elements of Indian dress and suits in the videos as well. Granted a lot of them like Selena Gomez, who donned a bindi during a Bollywood-inspired performance on Dancing with the Stars, get accused of cultural appropriation.

As Everyday feminists once wrote:

“The sari was originally intended to keep teenaged girls and women both comfortable in the heat and to look ‘modest,’” noted Palash Ghosh in the International Business Timesp.

That doesn’t mean non-Indian women can’t ever wear them; when in 2013, British first lady Samantha Cameron wore a sari to a Hindu temple to celebrate Diwali, a temple-goer told the Guardian:

“The fact that Mrs. Cameron made such a huge effort to dress as per Hindu customs most definitely shows how much she values our culture, religion and traditions.”

Oprah accomplished a similar effect when she donned a salwar kameez for the Jaipur Literature Festival in 2012, in Jaipur.

On the other hand, when a non-Indian tosses one on without much understanding of its origins, Gosh wrote, it feels like watching trick or treaters on Halloween

One way of avoiding the label is to learn more about the culture and clothing you’re honoring and respecting the tradition, heritage and history. Here is a little bit more about Indian Salwar Suits which are trending items during its annual Festive Season that happens this time of year.

Salwar suits, a traditional Indian wear, is one of the most-preferred outfits during all kinds of auspicious occasions. It’s a three-piece dress, traditionally consisting of pants called shalwar or salwar, a top called Kameez, and a stole called dupatta, which makes it quite a comfortable attire. This ethnic wear originates from the Northern part of India; however, it has gained popularity in the rest of India. Due to its adaptability and versatility, this outfit is one of the primary Indian ethnic dresses.

A salwar suit looks elegant on all occasions. It adds grace and accentuates the charm of the wearer. With festive season here, it’s the best time to flaunt your love for this traditional wear. Here is a list of trendy salwar suits styles you might want to consider before you decide your dress

  1. Palazzos: This trend is a rage among Indian women. This trend requires a Kurta paired with wide and relaxed fitted bottom pants. It’s comfortable and adds class to the personality. The wearer can choose from various styles of Kurta to team it up with a Palazzo pant. From a short length top to a flared Anarkali kurta, all kinds of tunics look great with palazzos. Take your fashion game to the next level by choosing a heavily embroidered palazzo designed on sheer fabric and pair it up with a solid colour plain kurta. This reverse style is newest in fashion and looks extremely stylish.
  2. Extra baggy salwars: The most popular suit style is Punjabi, also known as Patiala salwar suit. These pleated styles of salwars have a timeless appeal and are perfect for all body shapes. Their baggy fitting makes them very comfortable. However, the newest style of baggy pants popular among young girls is Harem pants, dhoti style pants and Afghani pants. All of these pants come in relaxed fit. While Afghani pants have pleats, Harem doesn’t. However, both come with tight-fitted edges at the bottom. Meanwhile, Dhoti style pants are loose from top to bottom, but they are wider at the thighs. Pleats on the thighs give it a beautiful structure. All of these pants can be teamed up with different kinds of Kurtas, but they look best with short tunics. Heels or flats both look equally elegant with these pants.
  3. Floral patterns: Floral patterns are quite a favourite among Indian women. The sophisticated and suave flower patterns enhance the feminine allure of the wearer. Florals on salwar suits look great in prints and embroidery. You can choose from a heavy floral kurta to an opulent flower-patterned dupatta to team up with the shalwar. The dainty florals have unique appeal when done on soft pastel shades of pink, blue, yellow, peach, etc. Also, whites and ivories with multicoloured thread work in flowery designs are a new trend.
  4. Jacketed Salwar Suit: Jackets add regal charm to a simple salwar suit. There are tons of style to experiment with. You can pick a long jacket for a classy look or a short one for a chic look, depending on the event. However, an intricately designed floor length jacket will make you look nothing less than a royal queen. Jackets design with heavy embroidery, zardozi, or zari adds an ornamental appeal to the outfit. Brocade jackets are back in vogue and are perfect for balmy weather.
  5. Cape and shrugs: Layering is not only restricted to jackets. Capes, ponchos and shrugs give a modern twist to this traditional wear. For a contemporary and modish look, opulently designed cape and ponchos are great options. These make for a perfect cocktail and dinner party ensemble. This is the best time to update your wardrobe with newest fashions and avail Diwali offers. Grab salwar suits online or in a nearby store at discounted prices.
  6. Crop tops and skinny pants: Salwar suits do not have to be worn in the traditional way always. Changing times brings changes in fashions, traditions and preferences. One of the most modern avatars of a salwar suit is Crop top and skinny pants. Since crop tops are a new rage among young girls, they love pairing it with skinny pants, also known as cigarette pants designed on dupion silk fabric. With sheer sleeves and a trail attached to the blouse, it becomes a spectacularly stylish masterpiece. If cigarette pants are not your thing, then you can team up the crop top with a designer palazzo or a sharara.
  7. Shararaas salwar suit: Speaking of shararaas, these type of shalwar kameez are back in fashion and creating quite a stir in the fashion industry. Originating from Pakistan, this outfit is quite popular in wedding parties and other auspicious occasions. It’s a three-piece suit with a Kurta, a dupatta and a flared lower. Usually, the lower is joined above the knee and are heavily embroidered with zari and sequin work to go with it. Traditionally, it is worn with a short Kurta. However, one can experiment with anarkali style kurta or a crop top to make a statement.
  8. Pastels: Pastels have been quite a fad since 2016. These soft and soothing shades of colors are now taking over the ethnic fashion industry. While solid and bright colours have taken a backseat, women prefer wearing pale and softer tones of colours these days. Pastels ooze out youthful and princess-y allure. The subtle hues have a unique grace and poise that look attractive in daytime events. These colors can be worn all-round the year. Traditional embroideries like chikankari, phulkari, Mukesh, aari, and others done on pastels has a resplendent charm. Even the brides are ditching traditional reds and pinks for their bridal wear and prefer pastel peach, sage green, and dull pink. At the same time, whites, ivories, dull gold and beige are picking up as preferred colors of fabric for traditional wears like salwar suits.

More popular salwar suits trends worth mentioning are sheer Kurtas, Anarkali style salwar kameez, gowns, and churidars. These styles have been popular for a while and it seems these trends are here to stay.

Indian salwar suits have been the hot favourite of women among other Indian ethnic wear. With new trends, this conventional dress is suitable for a formal occasion, wedding, ritual, traditional ceremony as well as an office meeting. Meanwhile, the dupatta is now just an accessory that you can simply skip if you want a more edgy and contemporary look. Pairing this outfit with statement jewelry and stylish footwear completes the look that will make the heads turn.

Halloween: Signs Your Child is Overdosing on Candy

With Halloween just two weeks away, kids will be eating all the candy they can find and sugar levels will be through the roof. But how much sugar is too much, and what are the signs your child is sugar overdosing?

 Dr. Christopher Calapai D.O., a New York-based Osteopathic Physician board-certified in family and anti-aging medicine, gives the rundown on sugar intake and what you need to know to keep your child out of a sugar coma.

 How Much Sugar Is Too Much?

 For children, it depends on their age and their calorie intake, but 12-25 grams a day is just enough.

 What Are the Signs of Too Much Sugar?

 #1: Sugar High

 A sugar high happens when there are extremely high levels of blood sugar, which results in high energy and shaking of the hands. The candy equivalent is three Butterfingers, which is 30 grams.

 #2: Sugar Crash

 A sugar crash usually happens within an hour, and glucose levels in the body will drop, causing energy to decline as well. During a crash, you’ll most likely be fatigued, hungry, and may also have a headache. To get rid of a crash, your child’s best bet is to eat an apple or banana.

 #3: Your Child is Craving More

 Sugary foods release dopamine, which is the same chemical released during drug use.  Once your child starts eating more sugary foods, such as those Halloween treats, the craving for more will continue. Pears are a great alternative, since it has almost 14 grams of sugar and reduces the risk of heart disease.

 #4: Sleeping is Almost Impossible

 Serotonin is released, which is our relaxation hormone, and is needed for a child to have a good night’s sleep. If insomnia issues arise, it’s time to reduce sugar intake.

 Good luck parent

This is When Your Baby Will Start Remembering

Your baby will start recording things in her mind from birth but will not be aware of what is really happening. During the third trimester of your pregnancy your baby will have begun to recognize your voice and at four days old she will be able to distinguish between your face and a stranger’s. It is at this time she will also recognize Dad if he has been present throughout the pregnancy. She will certainly recognize your smell and be comforted by it from birth.

A researcher recently carried out the following experiment. He looked at babies aged two months whilst they were in their cots and awake. He repetitively poked his tongue out at the babies who watched with fascination. Twenty-four hours later he returned to the same babies in their cots and looked at them but this time he did not stick out his tongue. The babies amazingly started to stick their tongues out at him as if to say ‘I remember you! This is what you did!’ This ability in identifying people and things is known as recognition memory and it gets stronger and better as your baby gets older. A newborn baby will recognize her mother’s voice from birth because she will already be familiar with her voice from her time in the womb. A week after birth a breastfed baby will recognize her mother’s smell. A few months after birth your baby will begin to recognize faces that she often sees and may develop a preference for some, usually her mother and father’s as she spends the most time with them.

Between six months and a year, your infant will develop and enhance her recall memory. This is her ability to recollect a specific experience and some of its details for a short time. Once this type of memory begins to develop in your baby she will begin to become more emphatic about what she wants. The things that she will remember first are those which are repeated often and those which hold more importance to her, for example; meal times, play times, bath time and also specific toys that she has become attached to. You will notice that she might start to make actions she has associated with certain toys and she will learn what activity comes after the other because of repetition of the event. When you notice that your baby knows what is coming next it is showing you she remembers what happened last time.

Once your baby is one to two years old she will have begun to remember some words. She will recognize familiar faces like other family members and you will see this in her excitement in seeing them. It is a joy to watch and be surprised by how much she can remember as she grows older.

Conscious, long lasting memory develops when your little one is fourteen to eighteen months old. This is when she starts to remember specific events. At two years of age your child will have the ability to remember facts and events for example, going to the circus or the park with her grandmother. Observing your child grow and develop her memory you will notice how she will begin to link experiences in her past to her current experiences. By recollecting her experiences she will start to have expectations of what will happen in the future.

Get my Fall Season Weekend Look

I love the Autumn season. The crisp air. The color changing on the leaves. The pumpkin spice everything. Well maybe not that part. But my fave part of the season is Fall Fashion!

I love getting to wear warm sweatshirts and comfy cashmere sweaters and chunky cardigans. Fall is also the start of Boot season.

You can never get enough boots.

[See this POST about what boots to wear this fall]

I also love scarves and getting to experiment with the different ways to tie my scarf.

[SEE This post for over 25 ideas for How to Tie a Scarf]

I’m heading to a friend’s birthday party today and for the weekend, I’m opting with a red plaid cropped tie shirt. Plaid hopped back into season as a fashion fave for all year a few fashion seasons ago. It’s timely because wearing plaid is very common and fits into the fall season of Harvest festivals and visits to the orchard to pick berries, apples and other seasonal fruits.

I paired my red boyfriend shirt by American Eagle ($29.99) with my fave denim Mom jeans” ($29.96)  from that company.

You can get a similar shirt, Express’ Plaid Tie Hem Long Sleeve Shirt for $29.99 on sale HERE! And similar jeans in a wide variety of sizes from Old Navy for $25 here!

Because it is quite crisp out there, I dug out a long ribbed grey duster sweater out of my closet. You can get a similar brand of duster here from Nordstrom Rack for $39.97 HERE!

It’s my ama mater’s Homecoming and I have to wear red because that color along with yellow and black are our school colors. I couldn’t track down my Maryland cap so this red Washington Capitals cap will have to do.

Finally, instead of boots, I went with black quilt patent leather loafers by Sperry. You can get a similar style from that brand here for about $80 HERE! These shoes last a long time and look very well constructed and are an excellent investment!

The next day, I headed out to watch a good friend preach at her church and used the same grey cardigan duster to keep me warm over a black wrap dress that I paired with black tights and pointy-toed black pumps!

Brit Star Robbie Williams Quits Social Media After His and Wife’s Surrogate Third Baby

Social Media can be a blessing and curse. The best part of it is that it bridges people who live in different cultures, communities and bubbles around the country and the world and through that connection, I believe, allows us to be more closer, empathetic and connected with one another.

It also lets people in the public eye like politicians, athletes, entertainers and other celebrities to reach, interact and engage more directly with their fans and vice versa. Before social media, the members of the public had to rely on the filters of PR reps, publicists and managers and would get an unrealistic or an idealized version of them.

The flip side of that access is that social media lets through the trolls, the haters, the naysayers and the overly critical, extremely harsh and toxic viewpoints. They break thru with the purpose to cut down, shame and be aggressively unnecessarily rude, I think. And we in the media often bite!

Often times, I’ve seen entire articles put together by a mainstream news site or news wire outlet based on the hostile opinions of the minority.

But they do say the squeaky wheel gets the oil and alas, those squawks suck up the air in the room. Think of when a few racist opinions are mixed in among dozens or hundreds of non-racists ones, we, including the media, focus on those hateful voices and then amplify them.

This amplification is not always good. It creates a mountain out of a molehill, if I can borrow an overused cliche. Making minor opposition appear more common. Like a few people may have been sad about the president interrupting a football game to give his  State of the Union address but you’ll see an article exclaim, “Social Media Did Not Like the President Interrupting the Game”.  A few irate voices do and should not equate to all of social media.

Our celeb friends feel the amplification too.

Take for example Robbie Williams, who is a recording artist in the UK and one of the panel judges on the X Factor. He recently decided to take a break from all of his social media accounts because he believes that his opinion on the show is hated by half of England! Half of England?!?

Of his decision, Williams said:

“I’ve had to take myself off social media – ­reading Twitter and stuff….If there’s more than half the country that hate me, that’s 50 million people…That’s a lot of people and that can feed into your psyche and make you feel bad.”

I do not follow that show or the fallout from decisions that closely, and I am certain he was exaggerating by saying 50M people hate him, but that remark exemplifies how LOUD and BRASH the negative opinions can be in social .

In any event, the former Take That star and his wife actress Ayda Field recently welcomed his third child, Colette (Coco) Josephine Williams, with via a surrogate after a difficult journey to have a third child via traditional means. The entire process was pretty much kept from the public until after baby was born.

They are parents to 6-year old daughter Teddy and 3-year old son Charlie.

Congrats to them!

 

‘Atlanta Exes’ alum Monyetta Shaw Pens Third Book, A CoParenting Guide

Our Bellyitch bumpwatch alum Monyetta Shaw, Atlanta Exes alum has followed up two books with a new how-to parenting books.
Shaw, who has two children with ex-fiance Ne-Yo has released her third effort,  “Keep It Classy.’  The ultimate how-to-guide for unstoppable moms and devoted dads” ($15.95 paperback)
In it, Shaw offers her first-hand encounters and strategies she’s learned through co-parenting with a popular recording artist.  She tackles  problems from working within a blended family to co-parenting tips and topics range from mental health to solving daily hurdles so co-parents can work together nd put their children first.
“For me, it’s quite simple.” says Shaw of the book that Ne-Yo actually wrote a forward for. “My kids come first and it’s extremely vital for me to set a positive example.”
That’s essential because her and Ne-Yo’s separation and personal battles were very much public before the two reconciled.
“The purpose of this book is far more important than just being an artist or an author. What’s most important is protecting the hearts and minds of innocent children, ours, and yours.” Ne-Yo shares. “This book is about preventing kids from being on the receiving end of issues and circumstances that we grownups create for ourselves. It’s about a state of mind, helping parents remove the harmful attitudes and behavior that threaten them and their children’s well-being.”
Shaw used her time on the Exes show which chronicled the lives of the ex-wives of famous men to build a platform and become a positive vessel promoting education and philanthropy. She also recently got a lot of positive attention when she committed to sponsor 48 children for one year in Swaziland, Africa.
With losing a brother tragically to suicide, Shaw says she plans to use her platform to develop a mentorship platform to work with young women battling suicide.
As a published author, Monyetta has released “The Adventures of Maddie” and “Bigger Than Me”. Her upcoming highly anticipated book “Keep It Classy” is a guide for women finding themselves in the

Guardian v Godparent: Know The Difference/How To Pick Each

Parents Need To Know The Person Picked as  Godparent Has No Legal Rights Compared to a Guardian.

Recently, I was watching an early episode of the latest season of Keeping Up With the Kardashians when the issue of picking a Godparent and/or  Guardian for children came up when middle sister Khloe Kardashian struggled with the decision of who to appoint as guardian of her then soon-to-be-born daughter True in case something happened to her or True’s dad, Tristan Thompson.

It got me thinking to share with you readers who may be unsure who to pick to be the guardian of your children and to share some ingishts into the difference between a Godparent and a Guardian.

A lot of people do not understand the difference and mistakenly believe that a Godparent would be given a child to care for in case of a parent’s death. That is not true.

A godparent is essentially a spiritual role, not a legal one.

Its origins are religious, and although there are cultural variations, the role today is mainly a symbolic one.

A legal guardian, on the other hand, is the person who will make all the important decisions regarding your child’s welfare should you die or become incapacitated.

These decisions may have to do with where your child will live, go to school  and general care until the age of 18.

Again, your children’s godparents have no legal role when it comes to their protection and well-being after your death. A Guardian, however, does have a  legal role with long-term responsibilities with regards to their protection and well-being.

All Parents Should Have a Will

If you don’t have one already, you will need to create a will and in it, you will clearly stipulate who will be left to care for your children.

Also, know you cannot just pick someone unilaterally. You have to discuss this role with the person or persons you are thinking about and make sure they are not only informed but are ready and prepared for the consequences of guardianship.

Also, with both parties on board, before you officially name the guardian(s) you can raise and resolve concerns early on which will ensure that you have peace of mind that your chosen legal guardian will look after your child in the way you intended.

Choose your children’s guardian very carefully

Also, unlike a Godparent who you pick because that person may just be that good friend who gives you the most expensive gift at the baby shower, a guardian should be someone you have a good feeling will be around in the next ten years.

Relationships wax and wane. People grow up and grow apart, move away and speak less over the years. It would be very awkward to have your child be sent to live with someone thousands of miles away who you haven’t spoken to in several years before an untimely death or  you become incapacitated and incapable of caring for your kids.

Name the Guardian on Your Will

If you do not specifically name your child or children’s guardian or guardians on the will, a master or trustee appointed by the courts will pick for you. Often times, that would be the closest living relative. Mind you, a lot of our closest living relative would be horrible at raising children. You really don’t want a stranger making that decision.

Consider though, that even if you are divorced or separated from your children’s other parent, that parent’s rights will supercede whoever you pick in  your will. The biological parent will become the legal guradian.

What to Consider When Picking a Guardian

When choosing a potential legal guardian for your child, pick someone who:

  • Has a cultural background and family values similar to yours’
  • Your child knows and is comfortable with, especially if the guardian also has children;
  • Lives in the same neighborhood, ensuring continuity of schooling;
  • Keeps regular contact with you and your children; and
  • Is relatively stable financially.

You don’t have to pick the most financially stable person among  your family and friends because ideally, your will (and or life insurance policy) should make provision for the financial care of your children in the event of you not being around to take care of them.

It really is not fair to expect the guardian to carry this burden. The easiest and most affordable option is to take out a life policy for your child too. An education policy is also a good option. The guardian will be legally obligated to take care of your child only until the age of 18 .

Get a Financial Adviser to Draw Up a Plan 

The guardian can be given access to some cash to use for day-to-day expenses, but ideally, the trustee in charge of this cash should not be the same person as the guardian to make sure there is impartiality and neutrality in the decision-making and to make sure the best interest of the child is taken into account,

Use the services of a trusted financial adviser to draw up an appropriate financial plan which includes provision for minor children

Review the Guardian Role Every Other Year and Adjust if necessary

While you pick a godparent for life, your choice of legal guardian should be reviewed on a regular basis.

People’s personal circumstances change and the candidate you selected at the birth of your child may no longer be an appropriate choice 10 years later.

 

My Fave Lifestyle YouTuber is Having the Cutest, Natural Vegan Pregnancy

One of my fave lifestyle YouTubers, Kim, of  The Chic Natural channel and blog is expecting! Actually, the pretty beauty guru announced the news in a cute video she shared on her channel back in June.

The 30-something year old is extremely private so it came as a shock to many of her 1.2M subscribers that she was sharing something so intimated. I believe she has a 12 or 13 year old daughter from a previous relationship when she was in college or something like that. Anyway, I was very happy to see her share her journey because her vegan food, make up, hair styling, haul videos are  so instructional and wonderful.

Kim is a cool person inside and out!

Then, a month later, in July, she shared her 6 months pregnancy journey and update:A

I love her bump-styling videos too



And finally, a glimpse into her daily routine, postes most recently:

Fall Showers Call for Hunter Boots! (Our Faves)

When it comes to classic and timeless fashion items, Wellington boots by Hunter are up there. The rubber goulashes are made by the company which originally was established as North British Rubber Company in 1856. Today, the heritage label maintains its authentic brand identity and has earned worldwide recognition and a royal warrant for its outerwear and footwear collection.

The boots now fuse function with fashion and come in an eclectic range of colors and styles. You can get them in wedge boot style, ombre, in bright colors like teal and hot pink, with quilted calf, and with the sock in sole for as low as $40 on sale at some online retailers worldwide.

We love them because they are mom and mom-to-be friendly. The boots are pretty easy to slip on because they have a large calf are and the rubber soles make them slip resistant and pretty safe and secure for the expecting woman with the displaced center of gravity and precious cargo on her front.

We love Hunter! Check out some inspiration sites below!

Click to buy but they sell out pretty fast so good luck!

For Your Child Starting Off the School Year Struggling to Keep Up, Implement This Method That Worked For My Kid!

Now that we are well into the new school season, some parents may notice that their child may be having a tough time adjusting and may have started the school year on the wrong foot. He or she might have failed a few quizzes, missed a few homework assignments or lost points on careless or silly errors like failing to give you a syllabus to sign and return.

The transition from elementary school to middle and high school for many children can be challenging, especially for boys. Also, a lot of children, especially young men, suffer from Executive Functioning Disorder which is exhibited in kids who have tough times keeping their papers organized, lose homework, cannot keep up in class or with notes and just struggle with the organization aspect of being a student. These children are not necessarily developmentally delayed and many can actually handle the coursework if only they could get their act together.

When my now 16-year old was 12-years old, he had a had a difficult time managing his time, classes, deadlines and as a result, his grades suffered for almost two years. It took me awhile but I finally figured out part of the root causes of his struggles: he didn’t have organizational study skills, and later he was actually diagnosed with Executive Functioning Disorder.

He isn’t alone, I am sure, especially for kids entering middle school or high school or who are going from the easier and less challenging school or program; or years in school, to the more advanced schooling, or coursework that requires more independent thinking.

Children go from having one teacher who guides them for all of their subjects to having to deal with multiple teachers and classes, numerous binders, folders, notebooks, papers and assignment books.

From one year to the next, they have syllabuses from different classes all with various project, quiz, exams and other deadlines. Class lectures also are different. They require focus to retain the information being taught where before the class is broken up by activities, gym class, outdoor play and lunch. It made learning less stressful.

In middle school, teachers expect more active class participation. It’s not enough to coast quietly. Same can be said of high school, or some private, elite or competitive schools.

Many school children in this stage need a method to help them keep track of their work and to prioritize their assignments and due dates. To help my son, I searched the internet for resources, tips and advice and came up with a system and came up with a plan that worked!

He went from Cs and Ds to honor student! He entered the honors program in high school, got on the Dean’s list and today is taking multiple Advanced Placement (AP) and Honors courses at his school

I am sharing it here for any other parent who may be dealing with a transitioning child who is also having a tough time meeting their school obligations!

ONE BINDER METHOD

Throw out the multiple notebook method that the school requires and going to go with a one binder method.  Purchase one mega 3 inch three ring binder and purchase 5 thin one-subject spiral notebooks to go in it.

Purchase matching color-coordinator two-pocked three-hole punched folders to accompany each subject that will be placed behind each notebook.

In the left pocket of each folder, he will insert his class syllabus for the year or semester or term. The right pocket will be used to hold loose-leaf assignment sheets and info sheets distributed during class.

The notebook  should used for note taking on one side of the pages only and dated at the upper right hand corner so he can keep track.

The front first page will be a wipe-able laminated monthly calendar that can be reused each month where your kid will input all quizzes, exams and project deadlines for all classes in one space.

The weekly homework sheets should be hole punched and placed behind the monthly calendar. On that weekly homework sheet,  have her jot down homework and other deadlines for each day of the week.

This one binder system should minimize the problem of when your child leaves his  book or notes at school thus meaning he will not have them to use to study over the weekend.

Also, this one binder system eliminates the problem of a child with executive functioning disorder who has a difficult time keeping track of handouts and due dates.

All of the papers will all be stored in one location for easy reference.

Also,  with this one-binder system, your son or daughter will bring home all the work so  you will be able to follow up and double check he or she is staying on track.

OTHER FAMILY ORGANIZATION MATERIALS: This has got to be an entire family effort. For the entire family, for accountability sake and so everyone is tune in to the duties and obligations, and assignments of everyone in the household, use or repurpose the following: 

A Large Central Family Calendar to hang in the kitchen or family room where everyone can see it.

On this large calendar, put important dates including vacations, birthday parties, doctor’s appointments on it but also test, project due dates and quiz dates.

If you have more than one child, like we do, dedicate a different colored marker color for each child and family member so they can easily see what applies to them with a glance.

This large calendar may help your child or children organize in their mind(s) as well as let you know who has what exam coming up or assignment due and when too.

Update it weekly with field trips, school activities, out-of-school sports and activities, dance and music rehearsals etc.

A Storage Bin: Get a bin with multiple compartments that can store paper, notebooks, blank flash cards, pencils, pens, markers, crayons, staples, glue, scissors, compasses, protractors, rulers and all the materials that may be needed for homework or a short project. It takes away the time wasted looking for a sharp pencil that children use as an excuse to procrastinate from starting. Have this storage bin be located in the designated study area or nook in your home.

A Weekly Calendar: Like the monthly calendar, the weekly calendar should be updated each Sunday before the new week with tests, quizzed and other due dates. . Have your kid or kids review your class notes from the previous week to see if you need to add any school activities.

Timer: Use a timer on your smart phone and set it for 15-20 minutes of uninterrupted study, then allow for 5-10 minutes of break to help a child who has a tough time concentrating and working non-stop. You can also purchase a timer just for this purpose.

It’s also great for kids who have or are borderline ADD/ADHD and/or have executive functioning disorder.

Daily To-Do List: Some children need daily reminders of what to do each day and even though you tell them, they forget.

Having a fixed daily schedule up on or near the fridge in the kitchen or other heavily traveled area is a good idea.

Ours include minutiae: Bathe, brush teeth, put on deodorant, dress, brush hair, eat breakfast; and after school and after library: undress, hang up uniforms, dinner, get forms signed, pack backpacks and knapsacks for the next day and leave by door, unpack lunchboxes and dump uneaten stuff and trash, warm milk, reading or practice instrument, quick study, bedtime.

PLAN FOR CREATING BETTER STUDENTS

Now with all the tools in place, here is the plan for creating a better studier and test taker:

Traveling to School

For those who drive their kids to school daily, you can start out with the morning news or music program on as the kids fuss and fight in the back, but getting closer to school, cut it all out and give your kids a pep talk and say a prayer, meditate or a few affirmative words so they are prepared for the day. (depending on your beliefs).

A pep talk I gave recently did the trick to empower my son to be more independent and seek assistance from his teacher on a certain missed task on his own. Score one for mom!

For non-drivers, try to carve out a few moments before the school bus arrives or heading out on your public transportation commute to do the same.

 Encouraging Classroom Focus and Participation Skills

Talk to your child about the importance of being cognitively ready to listen during class. If they have all their assigned work and readings completed before each class, they will be better equipped to participate and pay attention.

I instructed my son to spend the first few moments before class begins to review his notes from the previous day for a refresher and to prepare for what’s next.

Having that information fresh in his head hopefully will encourage him to raise his hand when questions are asked and to participate during oral call and response time.

Take Notes. It is important to take good notes in class.

Taking written notes almost forces a child to concentrate on what the teacher is saying. Notes, of course, also help them prepare for tests and provide clues as to what their teacher thinks is most important for your child to know.

Further, notes will contain information that may not be in  the textbooks.

Here are some notetaking tips to pass on:

Write the date at the top of each page of your notes and number the pages. This will help you to keep your notes in the proper sequence.

  • Keep your notes for each class separate from your notes for other classes. You can use different color tabs to help you do this.
  • Be selective in what you write. On average, the speaking speed of teachers is five to six times faster than is the writing speed of students. Quite simply, do not try to write everything your teacher says.
  • Use abbreviations and symbols to increase your notetaking speed.
  • Don’t be too concerned with spelling and grammar. These notes are for your use and will not be graded.
  • Ask your teacher to repeat something you think you may have missed.
  • As you write points made by your teacher, translate these points into your own words. Doing this will increase your understanding of your notes and your ability to remember the information they contain.
  • If your teacher provides a definition for a word, write that definition in your notes word for word!!!!
  • Write legibly. You will have to read your notes later on.
  • Include in your notes information your teacher writes on the board.
  • Stay especially alert during the last few minutes of the class. Teachers sometime use the last few minutes of a class session to cram in everything they wanted to cover but didn’t.
  • Use Abbreviations

AFTER SCHOOL: HOMEWORK & STUDY

The most important part of getting good grades is completing homework assignments and studying for quizzes and tests.

Establish a Good Study Environment: First, establish a good place for homework and studying: Find a place in the home, a desk in your kid’s room or your room even, in the kitchen or basement that is free from interruptions and distractions.

Get a desk or table big enough for your child to spread out their books, notebooks, pens, crayons and other materials. Have a storage unit for keeping crayons, extra pens, pencils and paper. A good chunk of study time is lost in my home by kids going on searches for a sharpened pencil. It’s part of the distraction that keeps them away from their homework. I am going to update my home office so that each child has his own table and space. It will be a distraction free venue and space for them.

Make sure their chair is comfortable, there is plenty light and the room is not too warm so your child doesn’t get sleepy and not too cold that they are distracted by shivering.

Go to the library if you don’t have such a place.

Make a routine out of it. My kids and I go after school each day. If your child is in an after-school program, usually, they have time for uninterrupted homework doing. That works too. Make sure there is no TV or music or video games being played by other children during study time at home.

If possible, and I encourage this, have a no TV or video games policy during the school week to discourage distraction or them rushing to complete homework just so they can play before bedtime. The quality of their work will show.

Encourage Frequent Breaks – A lot of children find it difficult to focus or study for extended periods of time without doodling, goofing off, picking up a comic book or doing something else instead of their homework. No problem. Breaks are great to reduce stress, allow time for the brain to process learning, and good for transition. Work them into the schedule. Set a timer for 15 -20 minutes of uninterrupted work, then 5 minutes of break time.

During the break, the student can get up, stretch, grab an apple or snack, flip through a fun book, go for a walk around the library, check out their social media accounts, then when the timer is up, get back to work for another 15-20 minutes.

To Study for Tests: Rewrite your class notes:

The best way to be certain that your class notes are complete and accurate is to review them in the evening while the information that was covered in class is still fresh in the mind.

During down times, after homework is complete, middle school and high school kids should rewrite their notes, correcting any errors, filling in any gaps, and adding additional information as appropriate.

Rewriting class notes also provide an opportunity to improve their organization and to make them neater, thereby making their notes easier to study from. Further, rewriting  class notes reinforces the information so that they will remember it better.

Here are more tips for rewriting class notes

Use Flash Card: Flash cards are a powerful tool that can help your child remember information such as the meanings of vocabulary words, mathematical formulas, history facts, and the correct spelling of words.

Tips for Remembering can also come from mnemonics, Acronymic sentences, Loci strategies,  and Pegwords.

Make an outline from notes of just the main ideas.

Make a timeline of important dates or the order of event.

Test Taking Tips: And here are some test taking tips to pass along

  1. Read the instructions carefully. Never assume you will know what they will say! Ask the teacher if you are unsure about anything.
  2. Read the entire test through before starting. Notice the point value of each section. This will help you to pace yourself.
  3. Answer the easiest questions first, then the ones with the highest point value. You don’t want to spend 20 minutes trying to figure out a two-point problem!
  4. Keep busy! If you get stuck on a question, come back to it later. The answer might come to you while you are working on another part of the test.
  5. If you aren’t sure how to answer a question fully, try to answer at least part of it. You might get partial credit.
  6. Need to guess on a multiple-choice test? First, eliminate the answers that you know are wrong. Then take a guess. Because your first guess is most likely to be correct, you shouldn’t go back and change an answer later unless you are certain you were wrong.
  7. On an essay test, take a moment to plan your writing. First, jot down the important points you want to make. Then number these points in the order you will cover them.
  8. Keep it neat! If your teacher can’t read your writing, you might lose points.
  9. Don’t waste time doing things for which you will not receive credit, such as rewriting test questions, though I suggest including some elements of the question in your answer for organization and to show the teacher you are responding to the actual question. Also, doing this will guide your answer. Be thorough and add the word “because” or “therefore” after each answer to force you to elaborate and expand so your answer is comprehensive.
  10. Leave time at the end to look over your work. Did you answer every question? Did you proofread for errors? It is easy to make careless mistakes while taking a test.

Encourage Task Lists – I am a compulsive list-maker and they keep me sane and my brain organized. Consider getting into the habit yourself or encouraging your kids to as well.

After creating this blog post, I sat down with my son and went over it and had  him help me prepare the organization sections and review the links herein. I hope it is helpful for you too!

Good luck!  And come back here and comment to let me know if you used this how it worked out for you!

Sources: http://www.how-to-study.com/Infoplease; and Learning Commons

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