If you are a first-time dad-to-be waiting for baby this Father’s Day, here are some Tips to prep you for baby.
1) Take a childbirth education class with your partner. The benefits of a good childbirth education class can often be overlooked. A class can help dads, and other support people, learn about the different options and interventions, and get the tools and knowledge to push for the best care during pregnancy, labor and birth. It can also spark the conversation between and among couples, so you can learn from one another and interact with other expectant parents in your shoes.
2) Work with mom to plan. Talk things through with one another and with your care provider. Chances are greater for a positive birth outcome if support begins early on in pregnancy. Discuss the different options for a safe and healthy birth, and map a pathway to get there. Labor and birth can be a dynamic process so it’s vital to work with mom to create Plan A, Plan B and Plan C. 3) Learn how to be an advocate for mom. Birth is an intense process, emotionally and physically. It’s important for dads to be informed and know how to advocate for her wishes. She may come under pressure from family members or healthcare providers and the father’s voice is important in pushing for the safest, healthiest care. 4) Find out about techniques to help minimize the pain. There are many natural ways, such as relaxation, to find greater comfort in childbirth and help labor progress. Every woman is unique and has her own ways of feeling safe, comfortable and relaxed. Whether she uses a hot shower or bath, hip squeezes and pressure points, or birth ball exercises, dads can help mom identify the pain-relief tools that are best suited for her individual needs. 5) Be prepared to welcome baby into the world (and help mom recover). Birth can be exhausting for both mom and baby, and dad can help to support both after birth. He can help mom by managing visitor times, rocking baby to sleep after feeding, and making sure mom is fed and gets enough rest.
Youcelebrated your first Father’s Day time new dads!
Congrats for making it to the daddy club. You may be exhausted, overwhelmed and still anxious. There will be a ups and downs but mainly ups.
If you’re nervous, don’t worry too much. There is only so many ways you can mess up raising a baby. To help you feel a little better, here are some great tips for new dads from Julia Wang, head of digital content at TheBump.com.
Tips for new dads:
You’ll sometimes think you made a huge mistake — It’s normal every now and then to secretly wonder why you ever had a kid in the first place. Forgive yourself these occasional moments of self-doubt and, from time to time, let yourself mourn your pre-parenthood life. These moments will be short-lived.
Buy a rechargeable, cordless hand vacuum — Much of your time will be spent getting things off the floor. At first, it will be all manner of bodily fluids, but soon enough, you’re going to be dealing with everything from Cheerios to banana slices. Later, the list will grow to include things like glitter, dirt, forgotten bacon and pretty much anything that can be shredded by small hands. And the clunky upright is too annoying to drag out four times a day.
It’s perfectly acceptable to make an entire dinner in the microwave. That’s it.
Act like a grown-up — One of the most heartbreaking sights is that of a parent and their young child in a shouting match trying to see who can out-tantrum the other. Children are an endless source of joy, but only when they’re not being an endless source of frustration. Breathe deeply and never let yourself escalate to the level of irrational fury that your little one occasionally inhabits. A two-year-old has the right to act like a child; you do not.
Hand-me-downs are more than okay — Not only are secondhand baby things easier on the wallet and the environment, it’s a lot less agonizing when you find yourself on the fourth outfit of a craptastic kind of day (which, trust me, you will).
Make time for the other relationships in your life — Not only is it important for your child to know there’s more to the world than you catering to their every need, but you’re also teaching them a very important lesson about what it means to have a full, loving life. Seeing you in the role of good friend or devoted spouse is a way for your kids to learn what it means to actually be a good friend or devoted spouse.
You’re not the “backup parent.” You’re a father — You’re a full, equal partner in turning a small, fragile sack of fluid and bones into a loving, decent, healthy citizen of the Universe. Never let the fact that other people aren’t sure what to do with a man between conception and Little League fool you into thinking that you’re anything less than critical to every step of the process. Be informed, aggressively involved and as in love as you’re capable of letting yourself be.
I was going to blog about something totally different this afternoon, but you know how Beyonce releasing an album has a habit of throwing all of my plans in disarray. [See review of Beyonce projects here] and [here] She and her husband Shawn”Jay Z” Carter released a 9-track album called “Everything Is Love” smack dab in the middle of their On the Run II tour. [This is right after the Beychella performance which was right after Jay’s album “4:44” which was right after Bey’s “Lemonade”]
These two don’t want us to keep our coins in our own pockets this summer. Anyway, I digress…
Dee Locket of Vulture did an excellent job summing it up for me so I’ll syndicate her opening paragraph to an excellent review you can read in its entirety HERE:
Your weekend plans: Canceled. Yeezy season: Dismissed. Drake: Who? Beyoncé and Jay-Z have pulled a Beyoncé and Jay-Z and surprise-dropped yet another album — but this time, as a couple. Their first-ever joint album Everything Is Love — the one that’s been percolating since even before Lemonade and 4:44 — was released on Saturday evening at the end of the duo’s London show on their On the Run Tour II with one casual parting announcement: “Album Out Now.” Out! Now! The nine-song album, complete with one visual component and a bonus track, is streaming in full on Tidal as we speak. With their trilogy recounting marital strife to remarried bliss now complete, what do we make of this closing chapter? From the shots at Trump, the NFL, Spotify, the Grammys, and Kanye West, to the Blue Ivy cameo, to filming a music videoin the Louvre, here’s everything you need to know about the conversation the Carters have caused now.
Phew! What an intro. Well, today is Father’s Day and before heading out to celebrate, while the men are busy watching World Cup games, I hopped on to pen a few thoughts.
First, I don’t have Tidal, where the album exists exclusively. Yes, they are still trying to make it happen, and even have gone as far as declare war on Spotify. No really, they mention the streaming competitor in one of the songs. My subscription expired so my options are to re-up it to listen to the complete set or wait until it slowly releases on other platforms. le sigh.
I hear it’s getting mixed, but mainly good reviews. Because I have nothing to add substantively, I’ll share that I loved the only released-to-the-public video out: “Apeshit”. Imagine! They rented out The Louvre in Paris, France for the video shoot! Wow!
The video for the song is a cinematic and visual treat. I love art. All art. Musical, visual, performing but especially art of yesteryear and religious art so it was a bonus to get to see flashes of famous pieces in the video.
And it is also a bit political. In the middle, there is an overt swipe at the anti-Take A Knee movement.
There is a lot to digest and there have already been publised a bevy or reviews. One thing I can offer that may not have been shared by others about “Apesh*t” is some of the similarities to other visual stimuli in other pieces.
Screeeeech!! Hold up, before I go there, I was also taken by the fact the song is Trap and besides both dropping some serious bars and Jay Z delivering an exceptionally good performance, he later gets side-graded (*is that a word?*) in my opinion to be to the sound effects emoting guy to Beyonce’s shine when it’s her turn to spit verses.
You know, like the guy Takeoff in the group Migos? ha!
Anyway, back to the visual similarities I spotted…
First, her sister Solange is famous for her love of dance and art combined. Her wedding reception took place at the New Orleans Museum of Art, and earlier this year, she unveiled a performance piece at the Hammer Museum in Los Angeles, and performed her title song to her first Grammy-winning album “Cranes In the Sky” at the Guggenheim in New York City.
Father’s Day is next month and now is as good as time as any to start thinking of what to get dad for his special day. I think the usual tie, socks, coffee mug and golf balls are played out and it’s time to start thinking outside of the box. Unique and personalized gifts stand out, like a personalized photo collage, a subscription box to Dollar Shave Club or something like that.
A custom shirt is memorable.
We curated a list of fun novelty gifts that dad may enjoy. Check them out.
1.For dad who is a dog lover, we really like these Fred Winer Dogs Dachshund Dog Drink Markers. They are great for breaking out when entertaining. To ease confusion over whose class is whose, these puppies (pun intended) hug each guests glass stem. They sell for only $16 for a set of 6.
2.For the dad who is more into moonshine or tequila shots, there’s these super cute mini shot glasses that resemble small mason jars! Hayley Cherie makes the glasses which come with their own tiny little lids and are great for crafts or party favors even. They are $11.99 for a set of 6 as well!
3. If you insist on going the stereotypical route with the mug and golf clubs, why not combine them and get a mug that comes with its own tiny club and golf club. Brink’s ceramic mug comes with its own stir stick to mix your coffee with, and it comes in the perfect shape to shoot a tiny hole in one. The set is $19.99
4. Desktop Cornhold Bean Bag Game looks like a fun distraction from the daily grind at work. Any dad would enjoy getting this as a gift and being able to pause during the day to toss the bean bag. The game is also under $20 at $13.98.
5. Got an artsy dad who loves to doodle or has some artistic skills? If he also has a smartphone and wouldn’t mind showing off his talents, you can can get dad a phone case he paints. Kikkerland sells a silicon case for iPhones that comes with non-toxic colors and a paint brush. It sells for a mere $10.00 It also makes a version for Samsung Galaxy 6 owners.
6. Like everyone, dad has a story in him too. If he is a writer or fancies himself a budding author, consider gifting dad this awesome book “642 Things to Write About“. The journal-like soft-cover book by The San Francisco Writers’ Grotto includes several prompts. The purpose is to get one comfortable with daily writing and to practice expressing oneself in prose. We love this $11.92 book that is also under $20!
7. If dad is the type of dad who gets motivated by inspirational words, another book to consider is “Whatever You Are, Be a Good One.” The book features quotes from the minds of the likes of Lewis Carroll, Marie Curie, Abraham Lincoln, Jane Austen to Beatrix Potter and great creative thinkers from every walk of life offering words of wisdom, heartfelt compassion and stirring calls to action. You can get a hardcover for just $8.99
This Father’s Day show dad how much he is loved and appreciated even he has everything under the sun plus some!
Treat dad to his favorite dessert or a jar full of his favorite candy. You can even make a personalized candy jar to put the candy in.
Give dad the gift of a great book! If you are not sure, give the next best thing, a gift card to his favorite bookstore.
A new fishing rod and reel or tackle box with new bait inside might be just the gift for this dad.
If dad likes to grill out, give dad a new set of grilling tools and apron. Add some meat rubs to this gift.
Whether it’s camping, hunting, boating or any other outdoor activity your bound to find a gift that dad will love.
Dad can never have enough hats or t-shirts to support his favorite team. Give him car floor mats with his teams logo on them. A wallet, key chain or key lanyard with the team logo on it would make a great gift as well.
Give dad a cd of his favorite band or type of music. If the band has a greatest hits collection that would be a wonderful gift for dad! If dad plays an instrument such as a guitar give him a gift for it. (guitar strap, gig bag etc). Alternatively, you can buy him a new instrument. There are a lot of affordable models out there. A great example would be the Washburn WD100DL acoustic guitar.
Give dad a cd of his favorite band or type of music. If the band has a greatest hits collection that would be a wonderful gift for dad! If dad plays an instrument give him a gift for it. (guitar strap, drum sticks, etc).
New running shoes or workout clothes make a great gift for a dad who likes to stay in shape and has an active lifestyle.
No matter what type of interests your dad has, there is something for everyone!
The late night talk show host is famous for his calls on America to prank their family members with the infamous, “I ate all the Halloween candy” parent prank on their kids.
For Father’s Day, the funny man invited his audience to prank their dads by running up to them and yelling, “I love you!” and capture their reactions. After poring over hundreds and hundreds of submissions, the talk show released a compilation of the best tonight during its broadcast!
To encourage Americans to give their dads what they really want on Father’s Day—quality time (and maybe a dad bod)—Postmates is delivering free chicken wings and beer to new users and their dads in 100+ cities across the U.S. (see the full list here https://postmates.com/) who download Postmates and order throughout Father’s Day weekend (Friday, Saturday, and Sunday).
A recent survey reveals that most Americans think dads get the short end of the stick on Father’s Day, compared to the heaps of attention moms get on Mother’s Day.
TheNationalToday.com andPostmates survey indicate that 69% of dads surveyed and 74% of moms surveyed think fathers are cheated from recognition of their role and contribution to parenting.
It’s so bad that 1 in 4 Americans don’t plan to get their dads anything for Father’s Day.
While 24% of respondents say they have no plans to buy anything for Dad this Father’s Day, another 44% will spend $50 or less on dad, and the other 32% will spend $50 or more.
But it’s not like dads want stuff anyway. Like how many ugly ties and socks can one man have in his drawer chest?
Of those surveyed, 49% of dads say time with family is the best Father’s Day gift. Gadgets and electronics come in second (12%), followed by gift cards (8%), tools or appliances (8%), and sporting equipment (6%).
The least popular Father’s Day gift among dads? Office supplies. ha! (Editor’s Note: Not my dad. He loves Office Supplies)
Here is to hoping you all do things for the dads in your lives today and make them feel special too!
In order to help dads balance their dual role as parent and provider, WalletHub’s analysts compared the 50 U.S. states and the District of Columbia across 22 key indicators of friendliness toward working dads. The data set ranges from average length of work day for males to child-care costs to share of men in good or better health.
Best States for Working Dads
Worst States for Working Dads
District of Columbia
Best vs. Worst
The District of Columbia has the highest median family* income (adjusted for cost of living), $98,156, which is 1.9 times higher than in Hawaii, registering the lowest at $51,442.
North Dakota has the lowest unemployment rate for dads with kids aged 0 to 17, 1.22 percent, which is 5.4 times lower than in Nevada, registering the highest at 6.54 percent.
Massachusetts has the lowest male uninsured rate, 4.5 percent, which is 4.8 times lower than in Texas, registering the highest at 21.5 percent.
Minnesota has the fewest deaths due to heart disease among males (per 100,000 men), 145.0, which is 1.9 times fewer than in Alabama, registering the most at 276.5.
Mississippi has the lowest child-care costs (adjusted for median family* income), 4.6 percent, which is 2.7 times lower than in Nevada, registering the highest at 12.3 percent.
*Refers to families with kids aged 0 to 17 and in which the father is present