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Woman Killed By Exploding Gender Reveal Pipe Bomb

A 56-year-old Iowa woman was killed [in late October] by debris from an explosion during a “gender reveal” party, according to authorities.

Officials responded to a report of an explosion just after 4 p.m. in rural Knoxville, which is about 40 miles southeast of Des Moines, the Marion County Sheriff’s Office said in a press release.

Local fire departments, emergency medical services and law enforcement responded, and found victim Pamela Kreimeyer dead at the scene.

An investigation found that Kreimeyer had been hit from about 45 feet away by a “flying piece of debris” that was being used as part of a “gender reveal announcement.”

The release said that members of the Kreimeyer family had been “experimenting” in the days before the party with “different types of explosive material,” and eventually developed what authorities called an “inadvertent” pipe bomb.

The gunpowder did not shoot out of the top of the stand as the family expected, and instead, the stand exploded, with a piece of metal striking Kreimeyer in the head and killing her instantly, authorities said.

“This family got together for what they thought was going to be a happy event with no intent for anyone to get hurt. What ended up happening was that Pamela Kreimeyer, a wife, mother and grandmother, was killed,” Sheriff Jason Sandholdt said in a statement.

He continued, “This is a reminder that anytime someone mixes these things there is a high potential for serious injury or death; please do not take these unnecessary risks. My condolences go out to the family.”

The sheriff’s office said the incident is under investigation.


Ashley Graham Says Serena Williams, Kim K and Amy Schumer Gave Her Messy Scoop on Pregnancy, Childbirth and Beyond

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First-time mom-to-be Ashley Graham covers the January 2020 edition of VOGUE, photographed by famed photographer Annie Leibovitz.

The Sports Illustrated cover model shared a photo of the cover of her draped in a gold down cradling her bump. A second photo she shared featured Graham with her husband Justin Ervin bare-chested standing behind his wife cradling her belly on a beach.

Draped in gilded “Oscar de la Renta” caftan, the model looks radiant in her first solo cover for the U.S. edition of the fashion publication.

Inside the mag, Graham discusses social media’s “baby bump” obsession), what her mom pals Kim Kardashian, Amy Schumer and Serena Williams taught her about motherhood and her struggle to find support during this complete life change.

“I’ve always had control over my body — when everyone else wanted to dictate what it should be, I took full control over it — but I had this life inside of me saying, ‘It’s not yours anymore, it’s mine,‘” says Graham. “I was gaining weight rapidly. And I felt alone. And the one piece of advice that my stylist, Jordan Foster, gave me was, ‘Make pregnant friends.’ None of my friends were in relationships, let alone pregnant. And now I have nine pregnant friends.”

“When I look at this picture, I get so emotional because this moment feels bigger than me,” she captioned the post. “It’s indicative of our entire relationship – my husband @mrjustinervin supporting me ALWAYS from day one.”

The model continues, “I’m overwhelmed with so much joy and filled with such gratitude that we are doing this together 🖤 Thank You Thank You Thank You.”

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A VOGUE COVER!!! — celebrating inclusivity, mothers, pregnancy and love —  is so surreal. I have dreamed of this moment my entire career since I was a catalogue model living in Nebraska two decades ago. Thank you @voguemagazine and #AnnaWintour for embracing a conversation around pregnancy and motherhood, which can be both incredibly exciting and also isolating. The community and support I have discovered along the way has been incredible, and to share this monumental moment with my son and husband in the pages of Vogue could not feel more special. @annieleibovitz, you made me feel like a true pregnant goddess 🤗 Photographer: @annieleibovitz Fashion Editor: @tonnegood Makeup: @hannah_murray1 Hair: @sallyhershberger Bookings Director: @felicitybwebb Writer: @jonathanvanmeter

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Readers in New York City and Los Angeles, California can nab a copy of the January 2020 issue today and nationwide on Dec. 17. To see more photos from Graham’s photo shoot, styled by fashion editor Tonne Goodman, and to read her full interview, visit Vogue.com.

My fave part is about Williams who parrots everything chronicled on this blog. Woot! Yes sis!:

“Serena Williams wonders if it all started with Demi Moore on the cover of Vanity Fair in 1991, naked and pregnant, shocking all the squeamish prudes and church ladies. “I was only 10 at the time,” says Williams, “but I remember thinking that was cool.” Ten years later, when Us Weekly focused its attention on questionable gossip and paparazzi shots of actresses pumping gas in Beverly Hills, the whole bizarro obsession with the “baby bump” took off. Tabloid copycats escalated their pursuit of the possibly pregnant, raising it to the level of stalking. One afternoon of bloat while leaving The Ivy and suddenly: IS JENNIFER PREGNANT? And then social media came along and women began to own their narrative by curating the journey of getting and being pregnant and giving birth and bouncing back—or not.

“I think it’s a good thing,” says Williams, “but it also puts a lot of pressure on women. For me, the whole lie about ‘the snap back’ was what bothered me. I had a little problem with the lies of girls on Instagram—like, coming out of the hospital holding the baby and . . . you know . . . looking thinner than before. That’s not happening to me! That’s one thing I’ve learned, and the thing I tell Ashley: Everybody—literally every body—is different. You might jump back in an hour. I didn’t.”

Study: Newborn Infant Boys Are Affected By Mom’s Pregnancy Depression

Women who have symptoms of depression and anxiety during pregnancy do not report concerns with their infant sons’ behavior – but do with daughters, a Cardiff University study has found.

As many as one in four women experience depression and/or anxiety in pregnancy and evidence suggests it can increase the risk of emotional and behavioral issues, particularly in boys.

The study focused on the children of mothers who had reported symptoms of depression and anxiety in pregnancy. Specifically, researchers looked at what early indicators of difficulties were apparent in these children at the age of one.

Researchers identified language delays and evidence of emotional difficulties in male infants but not in female infants, similar to findings from other studies.

The surprising finding of this study was that the affected mothers did not pick up on their infant sons’ difficulties – but did perceive issues in their daughters.

Professor Rosalind John, senior author on the study, said: “A key finding of our study was that mothers reporting higher depression and anxiety symptoms in pregnancy reported poor bonding, higher aggression and lower soothability for their infant only when the infant was female, and not when the infant was male.

“In contrast, our objective assessment found that male infants were more affected by maternal prenatal anxiety or depression, but this was not picked up by their mothers.”

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Bloggers Who Dress Up to Work from Home Style Guide {Get the Look}


As the year 2019 start to draw to a close, I am forced to reflect on the year and my goals for the upcoming year. Part of this journey includes journaling, quiet meditation and prayer and cleaning house.

By cleaning house, literally by cleaning out of old junk and outdated and ill fitting clothes in my closet and figuratively by readjusting my priorities and recommitting myself to projects and obligations I have let fall by the wayside.

As I inspect the old and decide what to keep, I also am bringing in new ideas, habits and even new practical clothing styles and options into my wardrobe.

For example, I live in athleisure wear because I work on my blogs, my consulting practice and diverse digital stock photography start up Picnoi,from home, coffee houses and libraries. There is no need for me to dress up.

However, recently, I’ve decided to do business casual or at least outfit myself in slightly less casual gear so I can stay focused and productive. It’s a mind trick that homepreneurs practice to psyche themselves up since most do not put on a suit every morning and head out to work.

The photo above reflects my go-to look, pressed denim jeans, a comfy sweater and ballet flats or boots. In the photo, I’m sporting Salvatore Ferragamo tortoise shell sunglasses and a smile.

Check out similar styles from my partners via Shopstyle below:

The 3 Things to Do to Prep Your Home for Holiday Guests

One of the best things about hosting dinners, parties, get togthers and out-of-town family guests during the holidays is the fact that you are forced to get your home in order.

That is precisely what happened when I accepted the task of hosting my extended family for Thanksgiving last week.

Step 1: Declutter

The first order of business was to de-clutter all of our non-liveable spaces which for us included the basement. It had been the dumping ground for baskets of laundry that needed to be washed, for piles of newspaper, mail and other papers that needed to be sorted and for any and everything that my Type A/OCD’esque brain could not stand to see occupy space upstairs in our main living quarters.

It took me one sleepless overnight adventure, but I did it! I bagged up the junk, and managed to push, lift and carte all the various crates of stuff into the laundry room, our utility room or behind the wet bar that we do not use.

Step 2: Invest in Home Goods and Accent Pieces

Then, I headed out to my local thrift stores, home discount outlets and home improvement stores and invested in pillows, games, a dart board, throws, sheets for a couple of unused mattresses I decided I’d turn into a lounge centerpiece and a few other decorative knick knacks.

You can create a color scheme for creating a cohesive look my purchasing colorful pillows from Amazon starting around $7 each delivered to your home for free if you have Amazon Prime. { Sign up for PRIME HERE if you don’t}

Step 3: Hire a Cleaning Service to finish the job

If  you have your go-to cleaning service, call them to help you do the professional level polishing, mopping and cleaning. If you don’t, there are lots of apps now that will give you the options to pick. I have used HANDY (and am an affiliate for it). ‘

With Handy, you enter what task you want to have done, or in the case of home cleaning, how many bedrooms, bathrooms and floors are in your home. Then you can either schedule a weekly, bi weekly, monthly cleaning plan or just select one time to try out the person or service you will ultimately pick!

Our cleaners took 4 and a half hour to give our home a super deep cleaning it needed. I had planned to save money by washing the base boards and crown molding myself before they arrived but I ran out of time to complete that task. They handled it superbly and did a masterful job cleaning the dust off the fans in each room, washing down stained walls, mopping, scrubbing filthy bathtub, and leaving our home spotless. I could not have asked for anything more. They went above and beyond and did an excellent job. Masterful and thorough. I could breathe easier figuratively, knowing my guests would be coming to a very clean home and literally, that all the dust and grime had been scrubbed away!

I’m so happy that I considered scheduling routine maintenance every two weeks.  You can also book them for handyman, plumbing, minor furniture assembly and more. We had someone come fix a hallway light that had been out for over a year, and hired yet another handyman to change the door knobs on all of our closet, bedroom and bathroom doors. They were all wonky and a lot of them stopped locking altogether.

Overall, the quality of work was superb because

That’s it! I highly recommend you follow the aforementioned steps to getting your home Holiday ready and to really check out HANDY and at least sign up for FREE to see if it is something you can fit into the family budget at least once!

Another option is to consider Amazon Home Services.

It works a similar way in that after you input all the detail about your home, the service hand selects a few service providers local to you to get it done.

Amazon Home also offers additional services like Treadmill, Elliptical and Exercise Equipment set up, Carpet Cleaning, iPhone Repair, TV Wall mounting, Framed Photo or Picture mounting, Home Theater set up and Furniture Assembly


Good luck and take time to enjoy your family, friends and the Holiday Season, in general!

Bump Watch: Maren Morris, Erica Mena, Jenna Dewan Go Bare

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Three of the celebrity women currently expecting recently stripped down to their bare necessities to celebrate their growing bellies.

Country singer Maren Morris took to Instagram to share a photo of herself lounging in a purple bikini in and outdoor space, perhaps while Babymooning in Kihei, Hawaii recently.

“Someone send a good virgin colada recipe,” said Morris in the caption. “#2ndTrimester.” Morris and her husband Ryan Hurd  are expecting their first child together.

Further along in her pregnancy, Love and Hip Hop: NY star Erica Mena gave her followers a glimpse of her third trimester belly recently. “This is what our third trimester is looking like 🥰 Weeks away until we meet HER♥️ ,” she captioned a photo that also promoted fashion brand FASHIONOVA.

Mena and her husband and co-star Safaree are expecting their first child together.

Finally, dancer and actress Jenna Dewan‘s bare bump look came to us compliments of her boyfriend Steve Kazee who posted a sweet birthday message to the love of his life and soon-to-be mom of his first child (her second).

He captioned a photo of the Step Up star in a cropped tee and briefs:

“This woman. What an indelible mark she has placed on my heart. The day of her birth has been a full one for us so far…dropping off the kiddo at school, baby doc appointment, nursery planning, moving into our new home, picking the kiddo up from school and so many other little life moments. Through it all I love catching eyes with her and knowing that she is the person I will be spending the rest of my life with. I couldn’t be more grateful that she was put on this earth and that we found each other through all the noise. I love you Jenna and I hope you have the happiest of birthdays!”

Get Fresh Groceries Delivered to Your Door All Year FREE

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If you are expecting and standing on your feet and walking aisle to aisle to go grocery shopping might be out of the question, especially if you are on bedrest.

Thank goodness for technology and the gig economy, a lot of apps and services have cropped up to take the work out of it for you. For a small delivery fee, you can have someone do the shopping for you.

If you play your cards right, and organize accordingly, could arguably get free deliveries for a year. Sign up for each of the services for the first free months and try a new one each month then cancel before you are billed. Then when you’re done researching which store has the best prices and best delivery services, you can re-ignite your membership at the winning service!

There is a way to get free groceries for life. Keep reading this roundup to find out which will give you that option:

Instacart is the go to service for quick and effective grocery delivery. Customers select groceries from various retailers, then a personal shopper does the shopping and deliver the groceries to them when they are finished. This service started several years ago but only recently took off to become the industry disrupt or and standard. You can try it for the first month is FREE.

I first used Instacart a few years ago when my husband and I were away on a couple’s vacation and we wanted to deliver food home for our babysitter (my mom). It was easy to pick fresh ingredients and have them delivered thousands of miles away! It was soooo awesome! I’ve since used it again in crunch times.

This option  is great for those who live in cities and who don’t have cars also.

Also, if you want to make extra money for the holidays for an upcoming trip, consider being an Instacart shopper. 

Fresh Direct is another competitor to Instacart and it will give you 60 days of free delivery but the other draw back is that it is limited and doesn’t’ serve all areas. Click HERE to see if your home is covered and if so, enjoy this deal!

Amazon got into the market with its Amazon Pantry offering which is quite identical to Instacart in every way. However, the bonus for Prime members is their membership gets them  free deliveries all the time so long as they order over $35 (or $50 in expensive NYC) .

Sign up for PRIME HERE if you do not already have it.

Also, customers in Amazon Fresh cities will be able to order fast 1-2 hour delivery windows, which is much faster than the usual 3-4 hour window.


You knew Target would get on the bandwagon and via it’s shopping partners at Shipt, you can get your first delivery order FREE!

And the good thing about using Target is that you can have other essentials and not just groceries delivered to your home. Sign up for Target FREE delivery via Shipt HERE!

If you live in the states with Safeway Grocery stores, you can get your first order delivered free and a $20 credit towards your groceries. Use promo code Save20 on your first order.

Also, people who live in states and cities with a GIANT grocery store can also get the benefit of a month’s worth of free grocery delivery when they sign up. SIGN UP for Peapod by GIANT here!

Not everyone is comfortable having others do their grocery shopping for them and so these options are not the cup of tea for all, but for those who are cool with nixing one more thing off the weekly to-do-list, take every advantage now!

‘Black Ink: Chicago’ Star Charmaine Walker is Pregnant and Married

Congrats to Black Ink Crew: Chicago star Charmaine Walker who revealed recently that she is pregnant — and married!

A day after announcing the news on her social media that she and her fiance Nick Bey were expecting their first child together, the reality TV star shared the news that they actually got hitched already!

“My fiancé Nick is no longer my fiancé,” she teased to PEOPLE magazine’s Reality Check webseries. “We didn’t break up, we actually got legally married.”

She explained:

“We decided that we just wanted to be together. It was just kind of like we’re already engaged, so we’re obviously going to get married. Why wait? You know, obviously the cameras play a big part in our lives, so we just wanted to do something for us.”

On Sunday, Walker revealed on her Instagram page she is pregnant with her first child, due March 12, 2020.

Sharing a video from an ultrasound appointment, Walker wrote:

Expecting Baby Bey March 2020 💕🦋 Shoutout to Momma Glenda. She was so excited 🦋 The night before she unexpectedly passed away she said “I still can’t believe my baby is having a baby!” I’ll never forget those words. This has been an emotional roller coaster but I’m blessed to be bringing life into this world. #BabyBey.”


How to Create a Christmas Budget and Avoid Going into Debt {9 Tips}

With the weather starting to cool off, thoughts naturally begin to gravitate to the upcoming holiday fun and festivities.

However, going into debt for that fun and being stuck paying off your Christmas bills isn’t likely to make your New Year’s very bright. Everyone has heard the adage that it’s better to give than to receive, but that doesn’t mean you need to spend a fortune in the process.

Instead, do your giving in a sensible way and don’t go overboard. Check out these ideas for creating a Christmas budget that will still allow you to celebrate the season richly.

  1. Create a spreadsheet. Using Excel or some other spreadsheet program, create a spreadsheet with the headings: Gift Recipients, Budget, Actual, Gift Ideas and Leftover. These are the basics, but feel free to customize this spreadsheet for your specific needs.

2. Make a list of gift recipients. Determine the list of people who you are going to give gifts to this year. Try to keep the list confined to just those people that are closest to you, like your immediate family and closest friends. If money is tight this year you may want to agree to not exchange gifts with your friends or neighbors this year.

3. Establish a budget for all of your expenses. These expenses will include gifts, holiday cards, decorations, holiday food and other miscellaneous holiday expenses. If you are travelling for Christmas then you’ll also need to include expenses for travel, lodging and food.

4. Divide up the budget into categories. Next to each gift recipient you will need to put a budgeted amount that you want to spend on that person. For holiday cards you will need to determine how much you will spend on a photographer, cards and postage. Each of these items can be a sub category under ‘cards’. Decorations can be divided up into a budget for a tree if your family buys a real one each year, lights, ornaments and other decorations for the house. The holidays usually mean big meals shared with additional people, so be sure to budget extra money for groceries for the month of December. Will you do any baking or eating out with friends? Make sure to have a line item for these things as well. It’s also a good idea to designate an amount for unexpected expenses that pop up along the way, like wrapping paper, tape and shipping expenses.

5. Create a gift list. You will want to keep this list with you to make sure that you do not go over budget, so you might as well use it for your gift ideas as well. The column you created for gift ideas is where you will add items as they come to you.

6. Figure out how you will set aside money. Some people put a certain amount of money aside in savings all year long in anticipation of Christmas. Others start closer to Christmas and watch their pennies in other ways. Maybe you don’t eat out as often or you skip picking up that latte in the morning so that you can put money away for Christmas expenses. Staying on a budget will allow you to adjust certain categories so that you will have the money you need for Christmas.

7. Don’t use credit. Use only cash, check or debit card when doing your shopping so that you are not tempted to go over your budget. Set aside a certain amount of cash in an envelope for each category and make sure that you keep your receipts in that envelope so that you can track your purchases. Having the receipts may also come in handy if you need to return or exchange anything.

8. Avoid unnecessary expenses. Try to skip the things that you don’t really need. If you’re out shopping and a vente peppermint mocha sounds good, resist the urge and stick to your budget. Try to find items on sale or use a coupon whenever possible to reduce your overall expenditure.

9. Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you go a little over for one person don’t flip out. Just try to save a little money somewhere else so you can still come out even at the end of the month. Watch adding too many extra line items to the budget. You can easily blow the budget by tacking on too many little extras.

There are many things to see and do for free during the Christmas season, so don’t miss out on the season’s festivities just because you are on a budget. Keep in mind what’s important during this holiday season and don’t let stressing out over money overshadow your enjoyment.

Cop that Celebrity Matching PJs Thing This Year

The family pajamas thing is more than a trend. Each year, families large and small will don matching PJs and take a photo for their annual Christmas card or just for The Gram.

Celebrity families like The Currys, The Harts and more have been posting up on social in their chic coordinated sleepwear. And…you can too. Amazon, for example, sells sets that start at $13.

If you have a Macy‘s department store near you, hop in the car and head over to pic up its  Family Matching Merry Pajamas ($10-$49).

Walmart also has the red plaid family PJs starting at $10. The options and variety of styles are limitless.